How do I handle an ex that works with me and my job?
I met a women at my job a little while ago and we ended up dating for roughly about a month. During the time we dated we let a few people at our job know that we were dating. However, I wasn't too big on sharing with coworkers what went on in our relationship.
She however, decided to share a lot of details with her coworkers about our relationship. Including romance in the bedroom and what we did. TMI kind of stuff. This bothered me a little, but not too much.
After we broke up. We basically adapted a no contact type of communication. We didn't discuss this. That's just how things went.
Eventually later on I ended up talking to one of my coworkers who knew about us dating. We eventually got into the discussion about why my ex and I's relationship didn't workout and concerns I had, now that the relationship was over. I shared with him this stuff in private and told him to keep this conversation between us two…
That didn't happen…
The coworker who I spoke to decide to tell my ex what I told him. Ex was furious when she found out that I shared with him relationship stuff even though she was first one to do it with other stuff in the past. I understand how she feels, but this was never about backstabbing. This was a private conversation with someone who I thought was trustworthy, at the time.
My ex now doesn't want us to talk at all or to be seen remotely near her at her work station. Which is fine. I am not interested in staying friends. She is also “considering” on going to HR and reporting to them about me and what I said to this coworker in fear that this coworker repeated this information to others. Keep in mind I only shared this information with 1 person in “private”.
It's not like I gave her social out, but it was some personal stuff.
I have gone to the point of telling my boss on what has occured, who knew about the relationship, the breakup, and now this. He said he will keep me informed if he hears anything, HR related.
I've also taken the initiative and transferred over to a schedule that would prevent us from ever seeing each other.
What else might I be able to do to have things a little bit more kosher between my ex and I at work. Should I go to HR and share with them my side of the story before she does?
