send casual messages to guys

Hello there,
I just joined loveforum two seconds ago, and I was wondering if I can get some help with guys.
So, I met this guy at a group dinner last month, and he seemed interested in talking to me once in a while during that dinner.
a few weeks later, I added him to my friendster profile, and although he hadn't logged in to his account for one month, he logged in to add me the same day I sent the invitation.
Now I want to send him a message; I want it to be casual, but the kind of casual that would also draw his interest in replying and keeping in touch.
What shall I say? please help me out.

ok, so how come nobody has even viewed my message?!??!
is it that boring?

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Originally Posted by nAzGiRl05

Hello there,
I just joined loveforum two seconds ago, and I was wondering if I can get some help with guys.
So, I met this guy at a group dinner last month, and he seemed interested in talking to me once in a while during that dinner.
a few weeks later, I added him to my friendster profile, and although he hadn't logged in to his account for one month, he logged in to add me the same day I sent the invitation.
Now I want to send him a message; I want it to be casual, but the kind of casual that would also draw his interest in replying and keeping in touch.
What shall I say? please help me out.

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ok never mind, I think I know what to say.

Hi, girly! The most likely reason you didn't receive any responses is due to the hour you posted your question. I'm glad you worked it out on your own, though...

dont say something casual....they go right over guys heads.

Sorry, we didn't respond fast enough for you....Not all of us tweak all night. ;)

thanks for your responds!
so this is what I wrote to him eventually:

> Hello [his_name], how are you doing?
> This is Nazli btw, [myfriend's name]'s friend. I was just
> thinking about the evening that we all went out to
> dinner, and I thought I'd write you a quick note to
> see how you've been.
> feel free to email me back when you get the
> chance.
>
> Nazli
>
> P.S: So how's studying for MCATs going?
>

and this is what he replied two hours later. Is this a good sign by the way? cause no matter how long he hasn't logged in to his account, he logs in on the same day that I message him and messages me back... he also did the same thing when I added him.

hi nazli,

how's it going? not much here, i have two classes:
bio and chem. just doing a little studying and also
trying to find a job. other than that, not a whole
lot. what about you? wut u up 2 these days. talk
to u later

Judging from the way you handled yourself over your initial post, I'd say you probably want to sleep on it before you do anything. SLOW DOWN.

What is your screen name supposed to mean?

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Originally Posted by nAzGiRl05

Is this a good sign by the way? cause no matter how long he hasn't logged in to his account, he logs in on the same day that I message him and messages me back... he also did the same thing when I added him.

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It's a good sign Nazli.

Find some common interests you can both talk about and explore (Favourite movies, music, past times). Exchange a few emails. If everything stays friendly see if there's a chance you can both go for a casual trip to a coffee house and just take it from there...

Good luck ;)

I agree with Mish... Exchange a few emails for a while then move onto a public meeting. Maybe with the friend you mentioned in the first email.

I also agree with Whaywardj... Not really meaning to judge you, but jumping to a conclusion that no-one is replying in such a short time (40mins/2hrs) makes me think you may be a bit insecure, and prone to rushing things. So take it slow, make him work for you as much as you work for him.

Mick

Mmm. I rekon A "Hey. How are you? Do you want to meet up for a coffee?" Mmeh. Maybe not the coffee. XP.

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Originally Posted by nAzGiRl05

ok, so how come nobody has even viewed my message?!??!
is it that boring?

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message = hey . how are you and how is life? :)

Hussain

p.s. no its not boring,