I got a REAL eye-opener...
... about myself when I started reading Why Men Love Bitches. I have hardly been able to put the book down. All of a sudden everything makes sense to me - why my most recent relationship went down the drain (besides the fact that he's an unappreciative jerk), why I act and react the way I do... what I should do differently in future relationships (even friendships).
The word "bitches" in the title doesnt refer to the abrasive types like you would think. Rather it is a humorous opposite to "nice girl". You always hear men say "nice guys finish last". Well... this is a revealing look into why "nice girls" get caught up in crappy relationships... and why men dont really go for "nice girls" at all.
I chose my screen name when I joined (independent) because I thought I was. And in many ways I am (financially, physically, yada yada yada). But I'm STILL a "nice girl" - meaning, I cook and clean and bend over backwards for my man. To the point of turning into a doormat without even realizing it!
Man, do I feel like an idiot - LOL! This is the absolute best book I have picked up in forever. I feel a major turning point coming on in my life, in regards to relationships and independence - and all that stuff I thought I knew all along.
The book is right. I'd be more likely to be someone's Sugar Mama or Booty Call than I ever would the love of their life or to find myself in a decent well-balanced long term relationship.
What a friggin' eye opener!!
Any other nice girls on board??
(ps. here's the link to the book that I am reading on Amazon: [URL=http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1580627560/searchcollect-20]Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov[/URL])
