where to have sex?

hey guys!
i am new and have a question.

my bf an I are in a long distance relationship. been together for 2 years now and love each other deeply. he came to visit me in july 2004 and i went to visit him in july 2005. as you might have noticed, we haven't had many occasions to have sex so far.
i am 22 and he's 20, and we are both virgins. we both live at home (at our parents') and we dont drive. last summer i thought of trying a hotel room, but it's too expensive and what if i get too nervous and it doesnt work? it would be wasting a hundred dollars...

so for next summer, i kinda need advice... where would you guys recommend we have sex? like i said we are both virgins, so i don't wanna go to a stall or a public place and "make ****y" in 10 seconds. i want my first time to be a lil more romantic than that, and i wanna make sure we both have enough time to relax.

i know i seem demanding considering the circumstances, but whether it's his place or mine, our families hardly ever go out without us coming too... it's been bugging me recently that's why i thought of asking you where we could go to have sex.

hope you can give me ideas ^^

I'd vote for a nice hotel room. But don't put the focus on having sex. Get one of those "love" rooms with the heart shaped hot tub, etc. Maybe get some good carry out food to have a nice little meal with, watch a movie.. get in the hot tub and go from there.

I dunno what other options you have... except like a local park after hours ;P

guess you're right *saves up for a hotel room* XD

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Originally Posted by Tone

I'd vote for a nice hotel room. But don't put the focus on having sex. Get one of those "love" rooms with the heart shaped hot tub, etc. Maybe get some good carry out food to have a nice little meal with, watch a movie.. get in the hot tub and go from there.

I dunno what other options you have... except like a local park after hours ;P

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I agree with Tone. This is really your only option unless you do something raunchy that you won't be happy with, like you said, or if you get a chance in the house when the family's gone, which you said may not happen. Start saving up.

That's kind of a crappy situation. When I went to visit my gf the first time, we were at her parent's house. But, luckily, her parents aren't fools, and didn't seem to care that we were sleeping together. If you're being forced to sleep seperately (whether in another room or in a hotel) you just need to find the time to do it. Do it really late at night, when everyone is asleep. Honestly, if you guys are that old, it's really bad that your parents would have enough control over you to dictate where you guys are all the time. Surely you'll have some alone time.

I don't get the no driving part. In your 20's and neither of you drive? Odd. Were that not the case, a motel would be an option. Less pricey than hotels.

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Originally Posted by marie132

hey guys!
i am new and have a question.

my bf an I are in a long distance relationship. been together for 2 years now and love each other deeply. he came to visit me in july 2004 and i went to visit him in july 2005. as you might have noticed, we haven't had many occasions to have sex so far.
i am 22 and he's 20, and we are both virgins. we both live at home (at our parents') and we dont drive. last summer i thought of trying a hotel room, but it's too expensive and what if i get too nervous and it doesnt work? it would be wasting a hundred dollars...

so for next summer, i kinda need advice... where would you guys recommend we have sex? like i said we are both virgins, so i don't wanna go to a stall or a public place and "make ****y" in 10 seconds. i want my first time to be a lil more romantic than that, and i wanna make sure we both have enough time to relax.

i know i seem demanding considering the circumstances, but whether it's his place or mine, our families hardly ever go out without us coming too... it's been bugging me recently that's why i thought of asking you where we could go to have sex.

hope you can give me ideas ^^

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Well i think you should wait, i mean as you said you both are virgins so then why not wait till you get married. if no then nice hotel room would be good but you said waste of a hundrad dollar bill, well honey there is a price you pay for everything you earn. you should ask your b/f to share not only bed but money. ;)

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Originally Posted by jaye

Well i think you should wait, i mean as you said you both are virgins so then why not wait till you get married. if no then nice hotel room would be good but you said waste of a hundrad dollar bill, well honey there is a price you pay for everything you earn. you should ask your b/f to share not only bed but money. ;)

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yeah lol we are gonna put 50 each XD but once we talked about it and thought, we wont be able to afford it many times so we better be good when we get there lol XD

the reason why he doesnt drive is because his dad is always too busy to teach him and he wont send him to a driving school (too expensive for him), he says he'll teach him but he never does. the reason why i dont drive is because i live in a big city and i have all the buses and trains i need for quite cheap (300 bucks a year for unlimited in my city - student price) and cars are too expensive here. (france is not like the US for that i dont think)

other than that the reason why we dont do it late at night: i slept in his room on the top bunk while he shared the bottom bunk with his younger brother (13 y/o). and when i tried sleeping on the bottom once i think we shook the bed and his bro got mad so we switched places and i slept up there XD so that's one thing. 2nd thing: his mom watches TV at night in the living room and fall asleep there until 4am then she goes to her room XD so yeah unless family goes away, we can only do small things.

once we got home after 6pm and his family had already gone out to dinner. so we started making out and stuff, so happy to have the house to ourselves we thought about doing it, but since we had no clue when they were gonna be home (and no cell to call them and ask) we startled at every noise we heard (car passing by, cat scratching carpet, etc) so it was really hard to relax ^^;

well anyway, if worse comes to worse, i guess we can ask his friends to drive us so if u guys know a good motel in the NY/CT area, let me know lol

and jaye, i cant wait till i get married can i? i wont be able to wait that long, it's already hard enough as it is lol XD but nice thought lol ^.^

Sex Is Only Good Untill You Have It

hey dont ruin my hopes lol i know he'll be good XD we will both be better than porn stars and in 5 years, when im a pro i'll come back to give u guys advice lol ^^o! jk

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Originally Posted by jaye

Sex Is Only Good Untill You Have It

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*slaps him*
What the ****?!
Anyway... >.>
Yeah, my advice, be picky about where, not a motel, you said you wanted it to be romantic, motels are NOT romantic. Maybe hang out over someone's house for a day, and when the family goes shopping, attack the couch... :D

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Originally Posted by Debunkt

Honestly, if you guys are that old, it's really bad that your parents would have enough control over you to dictate where you guys are all the time.

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sorry i meant his family dont go out much and when they go out to dinner usually all the family goes (including us) lol ^^; and my family never goes out XD and i dont see myself asking my bro to drag my mom to the restaurant so i can have sex, that'd be weird lol

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Originally Posted by Ekips

*slaps him*
What the ****?!
Anyway... >.>
Yeah, my advice, be picky about where, not a motel, you said you wanted it to be romantic, motels are NOT romantic. Maybe hang out over someone's house for a day, and when the family goes shopping, attack the couch... :D

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lol nice one XD

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Originally Posted by Tone

I dunno what other options you have... except like a local park after hours ;P

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too many bugs XD

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Originally Posted by Ekips

*slaps him*
What the ****?!
Anyway... >.>
Yeah, my advice, be picky about where, not a motel, you said you wanted it to be romantic, motels are NOT romantic. Maybe hang out over someone's house for a day, and when the family goes shopping, attack the couch... :D

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