Having some trouble...

Im 20 years old and am a virgin I met a girl that I am absolutly crazy abut and last night was our first time really trying to explore or sexuality togehter. So anyways she started playing with me and I would get a little hard but it went away qucikly however then we tried to have sex and I couldnt have an erection. I am so worried this is gonna hurt which otherwise is probably the best relationship ive ever had. I have jerked off alot in the past and usually can get a pretty good erection tho it isnt probably all what it should be unless I can get really turned which sometimes I will and get probably what is my maximum erection tho that is knida of strange. The other 2 girls ive been with both gave me blowjob and but neither time did I get a realy good erection. I mean this is like since back when I was 16 when I first got a blowjob and I still couldnt get an erection then. I should mention I am quiet overweight but I can do have pretty good endurance so it not really the problem.

This girl has already started questioning our relationship she says its not because of this but I really think it is. Please help me I dont want to throw away what might be the love of my life.

Sorry.. I wish I could help you but I've never experienced this, nor could I imagine this EVER being a problem... I have quite the opposite problem in fact...

GOOD LUCK - I predict some people will reply explaining to you how much this is just psychological, so I'll let them have at it:

i know its in my head i jsut dont know to over come it

I think that you are obviously suffering from anxiety. First of all, you are a virgin, so of course you are nervous. Secondly, you are already thinking she may not be in to you - another very good reason to be anxious. Obviously the problem is not physical since you are able to have an erection when by yourself. You need to relax and get outside your own head. (no pun intended) This is a very common problem from what I've heard.

i dont think it feels like a slug ... wtf ... acutally i never went limp when i wanted to go in ... sometimes maybe less turned on (meaning less erected) but not limp ... it would probably provide little or no pleasure for both of them . more like both being upset .

Aww, come on you guys. Be nice.

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Originally Posted by vashti

I think that you are obviously suffering from anxiety. First of all, you are a virgin, so of course you are nervous. Secondly, you are already thinking she may not be in to you - another very good reason to be anxious. Obviously the problem is not physical since you are able to have an erection when by yourself. You need to relax and get outside your own head. (no pun intended) This is a very common problem from what I've heard.

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I agree with Vashti.

Does this lady know you're a virgin? If not, tell her (she's probably guessed it anyway) and explain that you'd like her to take your virginity and teach you to be a good partner. The majority of girls would actually find this a turn-on, and gladly help you.

I think all of you are missing the point a bit.. He said that he very rarely gets a whopping boner even when he is having a 5 knuckle shuffle.

I would say if you are overweight and having a few problems with the old monkey staff, then you should get yourself to the doc. Book an appointment to check your blood pressure too, it could be rather low. If it is it's easily fixed.

Also, get your butt on a treadmill, she will like the fact that you are making a bit of an effort, you know if you did 30 minutes a WEEK on a treadmill you'd feel so much better.

For once I would say this problem is physical, get it checked.

Only other option is.. watch some tasty Uber-Gay porn.. if you get a stonking erection then change your name to florence and get ready for some bum-fun.

:)