Basically I've been with my guy for over a year. We're pretty serious so I don't want to break up with him. I just want advice. This is what happened:
Jay was friends with a girl that he used to like, and he even dumped his ex-girlfriend to be with her (but then she changed her mind). This was ages ago though. I told him that I didn't want him to be friends with her anymore, since I'd stopped being friends with my exes for him. He agreed. That was about 6 months ago. Then on Saturday night, I was working until 10. I told him to come by my work (I work at a club) with his friends and we could hang out. He told me that he was sick of clubbing so he was gonna stay home. He even messaged me at 3am telling me he just woke up, and he'd been asleep all night.
Then I noticed in his phone that he had alot of calls from someone named "Chris". I know all his friends, and I didn't know Chris, so I was suspicious. I rang him up... and a girl answered. I asked her who she was and she said she was Crystal. (the girl that he used to like) So I asked her who she was and how she knew Jay. She told me that she was just a friend, and she has her own boyfriend. So I asked her if she knew what he did on Sat night and she told me that he went with her to a club with some other friends. So I rung him up and said "Where were you REALLY on Saturday night??" And he said I was at home doing nothing. And I told him what happened... and he claims that he didn't tell me about it because he knew I'd get upset.
Why the hell did he lie about it then? I would have been a bit mad, but I would have gotten over it. Why didn't he invite me along? I would have went by after work... especially if I knew she was there! I just don't see why he's hiding me from her. I mean, if she's such a good friend... wouldn't he introduce her to me? Why did he chose to go to the club with her, but not me? He won't even talk to me about it. He's just trying to pretend it didn't happen. What can I do to stop him lying to me? It seems that everytime I ask him questions about it... I don't trust him to tell me the right answer. And it's annoying because I always trusted him before.
