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These were originally posted in other forums. They are directed towards a male audience, and they refer to women as "targets." I am not in any way slanting women, but I find it is easier for men to apply teckniques (for the first time) to a "target," because the word is far less domineering and scary than "woman." Face it women, most men are scared of you... and that fear is unnatractive... I am simply taking the fear out of male-female interactions. Anyways, heres the posts:

Rising up, back on the street.
Did my time, took my chances,
Went the distance, now I’m back on my feet.
Just a man and his will to survive.
So many times it happens to fast,
You trade your passion for glory.
Don’t loose your grip on the dreams of the past,
You must fight just to keep them alive.
It’s the eye of the tiger, the thrill of the fight,
Rising up to the challenge of our rival,
The last known survivor stalks his prey in the night
And he’s watching us all with the eye,
The eye of the tiger!

How often do you hear guys talking about a woman’s body... as apposed to a woman’s eyes, lips or hair? Culture is to blame. Eye contact is sometimes viewed as offensive, and is usually associated with a certain uneasiness.

Offensive EC, or staring, is a product of an emotionless [or negative] glance. If you witness something unbelievable you will undoubtedly stare. After gaining experience with women, you will find them more and more believable... most of the “hotties” you used to fixate on [drool and all] will barely catch your attention. But, for the budding green DJ, help reduce staring by smiling and relaxing/softening your expression.

The uneasiness you feel is both a result of culture, and a few startling ‘side effects’ prolonged EC may have.

“I AM WOMAN, HEAR ME ROAR!”

Modern culture makes every woman out to be wonder woman. They’re not. Women are not deserving of the fear many men feel when they attempt to hold EC with them.

“I am man, I need not roar.”

While holding EC you may begin to feel restless, start fidgeting, or be compelled to look away from your target. This is natural. The more accustomed to EC you become the less ‘side effects’ you will experience. Like anything else, EC requires a level of confidence to be done correctly. Build confidence through practice.

Your face is capable of thousands of expressions [with varying degrees and combinations of just over one hundred base expressions]... be in control of your appearance. If you walk around making EC while frowning, people will be afraid, or feel threatened by you. Conversely, if you walk around with a huge grin, people will find you weird, or maybe even scary.

Walk around making EC, with a look of a man who anticipates the punch line to a funny joke - you know something good is going to happen, so you’re just barely smiling. Once you make EC and say hi, show those purely whites!

Once in a conversation, you can lead your target through a topic with simple supplication and facial expressions.

Hey, what’s up<smile>?
-Oh, not much.
<Raises eyebrows and leans forward slightly, remaining silent, as if requesting more info>
-Just got back from the store.
Really?
-Yeah, had to pick up some bread and eggs.

When someone is having a bad day, an empathetic look sometimes says more than the sweetest words of good-will. Relax your eyes, raise your eyebrows slightly, and coyly smile to show understanding of their poor circumstances.

When flirting and teasing, a broad, laughing smile with a scrunched nose while throwing your head back emphasizes whatever you were mocking your target about, and usually educes a play fighting, or some attitude from her. When she sasses you [attitude is so sexy!], raise one eyebrow and turn up your lips, as if saying “Yeah, sure thing hunny.”

Practice your EC and facial expressions in the mirror... just the basics: happiness, requesting more information, cocky/funny, and get the muscle memory down. Hold eye contact in every situation you can - with teachers, your friends, girls [ESPECIALLY ugly ones]. Be careful not to stare at men that are not friends, as hard EC is perceived as a threat by men.

Attraction building EC - your gaze sends your target a message, and will often lead to deep rapport. Done in a woman’s intimate distance [within 2 feet], and best coupled with intermediate-heavy kino, look deep into her eyes with a soft expression. Slowly look from her eyes, to her lips, and back to her eyes. Also, using slow, soft kino, if you run your fingers through her hair, look at her hair. If you trace her shoulder, down her arm, to her hand, follow the path of your fingers on her skin.

Eye contact is nothing to be afraid of, in fact, it’s a very powerful technique deserving of special consideration and practice. Happy hunting, DJ’s ;-)

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It’s true, I’ve been through plenty of phases since my discovery of this site almost four years ago. My first, and most popular handle was Lorenzo. At the time I was a preachy, growingly confident, uncultured, young man. Not anymore, no. Now I’m an ass. Why? Because I have little, save contempt, for these boards. With my first post under my new handle, I spat on our forums... and who defended them? A few, and a few more knew what I was trying to accomplish, but the vast majority of you don’t even understand yourselves, your own egos!

Not for long. I’m here, not to talk about the workings of the grey-matter snuggled inside your cranium [not directly, anyways]. This is not another endless mindset post. My second handle, KinoOI, was perhaps my favorite. I was just developing my own style of Don Juaning, personalizing my repertoire of techniques, phrases, and mannerisms. I took special interest in the concept and application of kino, or physical contact between a PickUpArtist and his Target.

Accidental touching aside, we will be talking about deliberate kino today.

Why kino? Touch is a powerful sense... the rout of all stimulation. By touching your target you add an element of sexuality to your conversation - without saying a word. touch builds a connection between you and your target, and it is that connection which you use as leverage when you take your relationship to another level [#/date/kiss/fvck close].

When do you use kino? Everyone walks around in a bubble of personal space, and communicates at different distances depending on comfort level. Public distance is greater than 10 ft away, and this is how we talk to strangers, and sometimes where we break the ice from. Social distance is around 5 ft, this is how we talk to people we are indifferent to, and people we have just met. Personal distance is around 2 ft, we talk to our close friends at this distance, once you have rapport with a target, you should be inside her Personal distance. Intimate distance is closer than 2 ft, this is pre-kiss distance, whisper distance, this is Kino distance, baby! Any time you are at an intimate distance with your target you may, and should, be using kino.

What is kino? Introductory kino - when you take a ladies hand and introduce yourself, gently squeeze her hand, and hold it slightly longer than you would a ‘normal’ [man to man] handshake. This gets her used to your touch. Also, if you are standing/walking next to her, brush your arm against hers. Sitting across from her? Slide your foot beside hers so your ankles touch for a moment. All of these touches open her up to the idea that being touched by you is normal.

Light kino - When either of you make a strong point during a conversation, or someone asserts something, lightly touch the side of her upper arm with an open hand. If there is a third party in the conversation, and you quote, mention, or talk about your target, place an open hand on her forearm [if she is facing you], her side [if her arm is not outstretched], or her lower back [if she is facing the third party]. If walking together, guide her through a doorway by the waist, or use a similar motion as you round a corner. If sitting, slide your foot next to hers, then move your foot up and down, so your ankles/lower legs lightly rub. If standing side by side, lean towards her so your arm/chest is touching her for a few moments.

Intermediate kino - Touch her hand with yours or lean against her. Trace along her arms with your hands. If sitting “lock” your knees with hers [one of hers is in-between both of yours, or vice versa]. When walking, “crook” your arm [like how a bride and her father walk down the isle]. Then, when she takes your arm, walk close so your bodies brush against each other [not only the arms, but hips as well]. Short hugs. Play fighting.

Heavy kino - Massaging. Tickle wreslting. Hand holding. Running your fingers through her hair. Long, close hugs. Dancing [if done correctly ;-)].

Now, anyone can try kino, but to understand the progression, that’s the key. You get into her intimate distance with your use of language, and being the all around confident, charismatic man you are. Once you are close to your target, introduce touching to your relationship. Look into her eyes and hold her hand as you introduce yourself, brush your arm against hers. If a woman lets you into her intimate distance, she wants you to touch her... once you’ve initiated touching, move on to light kino. She told a funny joke, smile and place your fingertips on her upper arm. Kino, especially in its early stages, should never be blatant. The thought of you touching her shouldn’t enter her mind - you just do it, and she is so enthralled in the conversation she doesn’t even ‘notice.’ She told another joke and you lightly put your hand on her love handle as you laughed. Your conversation is so wildly entertaining, and your touching is stimulating her, she’s ready for intermediate kino. Crock your arm and take a walk, open a door for her and guide her through by the waist. You tease her, she jokingly hits you, you flirt back, its time for heavy kino. You stop fooling around, look deep into her eyes, pull her [by her cloths] close. You run your fingers through her hair, and lightly massage the back of her neck before you know it, your kissing... yay!

When you use kino, look for positive feedback before you move to the next level. If you lightly touch the side of her arm and she smiles and leans towards you [positive body language], you’d do fine to place your hand on her love handle next time. Also, whenever she uses a level of kino, feel free to skip that level of kino - she’s used to it already.

Kino is like any other technique, the more your practice, the more natural it becomes. And when you are chatting up beautiful women, slipping your hands around their waist and playing footsy without even thinking, its a wonderful thing.

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Women, understand that both eyecontact and kino is something you can, and should, use too. EC can be intimidating, but as long as you smile as you look into his eyes he'll get the hint. Kino... when a woman touches a man, it feels sooo good. Doesn't have to be dirty... a palm over his heart, fingers running through his hair, touching is a great way to build a connection between the two of you.