Originally Posted by youre it
So I've been with my boyfriend for a little over 3 years now. He's typically a nice guy, but he has his moments. I love him more than anything and if we ever broke up I don't know what I'd do. Our plans are to get married when I graduate from college; 2010. We have stupid little fights a lot, though. It's always about the same thing. There's one thing that drives me nuts about him, though. His hobby is working on cars. He's constantly working on it and I don't remember the last time we went a weekend without cars. Sometimes we go an entire weekend in a garage working on cars...I don't complain unless he's in there for hours upon hours for an entire weekend. I know he loves working on them, but why can't he just go without it, ever? I'm not asking him to give up his hobby...I definitely don't want that, it's just driving me crazy that he's willing to say "baby I want a day or two away from you" but then he's working on cars 7 days a week..sometimes he starts working on them at 7:00pm and doesn't stop until 1:00am..sometimes 2:00 or 3:00...depending on what it is. He tells me I'm priority but he's always saying he wants time away from me...okay understandable; space is needed..but because he's never giving that up for a weekend or a couple of days, even, I feel like I'm not as important to him as I thought. The only other thing that drives me nuts about him is the fact that he plays computer games when he finally does stop working on cars...actually, every night. He'll play from the time he gets home around 11 or 12...or 1 or whatever...until 4 or 5 or 6 sometimes. And we talk on the phone every night..and no I don't force him, he says he just wants to, but when we're on the phone I'm having to repeat myself like 849042 times with almost everything that I say. I mean, we go ALL day without talking (until after 9 or until he calls at 1 or 2am) and I don't see him all the time, so then when he calls I want to have a conversation with him, not be ignored. He's always like, "baby I'm not ignoring you" and maybe it's not intentionally but he still does and it's driving me insane! What is it about cars and computer games that keeps a guys attention...especially away from his girlfriend?
This is definitely just me venting....I just feel like I'm competing with his cars and computer games even though everytime I tell him that he says I'm not. I don't know what to do or how to act...I've left him alone all day until he calls me, not bothering him, etc. I try and try and get nowhere...and when I say something he just says I'm "bitching". Sometimes I just don't understand men..and just want to give up.
