Serban, Radu and Me...

so...there is me, and 2 men: serban and radu... i have been with radu 3 years, he is sweet, tender, good listener...he behave as if i am a doll, a queen, but...his mother doesn't want me...so after an year of bad discussiun with his mom, i broke up with him...

then i met serban, passioned, agressive, gealouse...we had a real flash love story, but...we argue often, he is not so good as radu, except in bed, where he is..almost perfect..:))

i could not say i loved serban, even he is so passioned and sweet sometimes, but he is not so tender and well educated as radu..so..i do not feel that i could have a long term relation ship with him...and sometimes i miss a lot radu...and serban is very upset that radu sometimes calls me, and brings me presents for my birthday and so on...he becomes agressive with me and speak to me very ugly...:(( he says things that radu never have said...:((

but with radu i can not have a good sex, for almost 1,5 year be cause of the problems with his mom..the problems made me have a low libido for him and i dislike him in bed a lot, even we are the best friend...soul mates...

what should i do??

Sounds like Foreign affairs; most of which I dont understand. I dont see why it matters what his Mom thinks.

I can see how you'd want to poison her or something, but TAVS is right- he shouldn't let his mother interfere with his relationship to the point where it affects his sex life. (What is he thinking?)

What did Radu do when you broke up with him because of his mom? Did he just accept it, or did he try to change your mind? Mama's boys are sooo unattractive.

Serban sounds like an asshole. I'm glad you're clear that his place is in your bed, not at your side. Put him & Radu together and you'd have one good one. Separately, I think they both fall short of acceptable.

gigabitch-- tks a lot for your advice...you are great!

well...radu tried to make me think diffrent about his mom, try to make his mom think diffrent about me, we moved togheter, and his mom came often to our place and made bad comments...god..it was very unconfortable..my parents over reacted, and said that i diserve more than a familly that doesn't accept me, and rejected radu...

yes, serban is very selfish and as you said "asshole" (meaning a bad man i suppose)...i had some fun with him, he is good in bad...but...but...

now the situation is like that:

1. radu wants me back in his life/house...i am scared of the rejection of his parents, i don't want to see his mom ever in my life.
2. serban wants me to move with him, his parents are perfect , they are very sweet...they like me a lot...
3. i don;t want to move nor with radu, nor with serban, cause i have o lot of fights with serban, so...i do not think i love him at all...and with radu..i do not know...


i tried to brake up with boths...serban came over my place, make some gelousy scenes, radu keeps calling me and praying me to come back, telling me that he will wait for my decission as long as necessary...

i tried to make love with radu, but i keep thinking to serban, and i dislike every touch of radu, even i simply love the way we speak and feel...i wonder why i can not feel well with him, even 3 years ago it was ok..:((

So don't move in with either of them! Shit, maybe you CAN have them both.

Radu's mom sounds like my ex-mother-in-law. She was suuuuch a bitch! My ex never even noticed how nasty she was to me until we had our daughter, and then everything changed. Suddenly, I was the mother of his child and to be protected at all costs. He even threw her out of our house once for yelling at me.

There might be hope for Radu, but the fact that you think about Serban when you're in bed with him.... Danger!

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Originally Posted by TAVS

Sounds like Foreign affairs; most of which I dont understand. I dont see why it matters what his Mom thinks.

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it matters, cause radu wants a familly with me, and i supose parents should agree with that...cause we say, when someone marries someone, marries with all its familly.

in fact, i shouldn' mind about his mom, but i can not...i am very sad, every time i listen a bad comment from her side...:((

Well, are her nasty comments all about you, or is she just like that about the whole world? Would anybody be good enough for Radu in her eyes?

And what's the rest of the family like?

Does your family like Radu, except for his mom?

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch

So don't move in with either of them! Shit, maybe you CAN have them both.

Radu's mom sounds like my ex-mother-in-law. She was suuuuch a bitch! My ex never even noticed how nasty she was to me until we had our daughter, and then everything changed. Suddenly, I was the mother of his child and to be protected at all costs. He even threw her out of our house once for yelling at me.

There might be hope for Radu, but the fact that you think about Serban when you're in bed with him.... Danger!

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Yes, maybe Radu could change, but....my parents don;t want to see me in his familly, be cause of his mom..imagine a mother in law like her...i'll go crazy!
Your husband seems to be great now..but u still divorced..why?

in bad, radu is a mess..at least that is how i see him...

serban is good, cause he is passioned, but so..asshole:)) i could not see him as my husband, but i still loose my time with him...i guess i have lost my self esteem , cause he speaks with me like i am a garbige, and i asked him why...he said...oh, i love you, it is just my bad vocabulary, forget...

My ex and I broke up because he spent most of his time drinking and would not engage in our life together. We're just really different. We're still on friendly terms and he quit drinking (for now- I've seen that before)

And I agree that Serban is in no way qualified to be a husband. He would treat your kids like that too.

And I can't imagine committing myself to someone who isn't good in bed, so I can understand the Radu thing too. Plus his mother is evil.

All I can say is, there must be somebody out there who is neither psycho (Serban) or a big pussy (Radu). I think you should look around for somebody else.

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch

Well, are her nasty comments all about you, or is she just like that about the whole world? Would anybody be good enough for Radu in her eyes?

And what's the rest of the family like?

Does your family like Radu, except for his mom?

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she never liked a girl friend of radu...:)) the woman has a problem indeed.

his father is a puppet in his mothers hands...

well...my dad says that radu is too ...how could i say..not strong as a man..., not very ambiciouse...they used to like him, but now, they don't...they i need a stronger man, a clever one...radu is sometimes scared to take difficult decisions...

You could call him a wimp. A weenie. A man with no spine.

What does your family thing of wacky Serban?

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch

My ex and I broke up because he spent most of his time drinking and would not engage in our life together. We're just really different. We're still on friendly terms and he quit drinking (for now- I've seen that before)

And I agree that Serban is in no way qualified to be a husband. He would treat your kids like that too.

And I can't imagine committing myself to someone who isn't good in bed, so I can understand the Radu thing too. Plus his mother is evil.

All I can say is, there must be somebody out there who is neither psycho (Serban) or a big pussy (Radu). I think you should look around for somebody else.

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you speak like my mom, like my best friend, even my cat i belive tells me that, cause i suppose even him is tired of my tears for those 2 man...


but i have to learn cause i have a difficult exam, and i have no time to go out and meet other men..i belive that is why..i have this big dilema.

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch

You could call him a wimp. A weenie. A man with no spine.

What does your family thing of wacky Serban?

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ooo my dad want him out...i guess that daddy would suck his blood :)) joking

yeserday i talled mom:
-oh mom,serban called...bla bla..he wants we go on a trip..

-serban? what serban?
-what do u mean?
-serban it is not a man, a human beeing, it is a genetically mistake, error...:)))

Ha! She's funny.

Maybe your mom could find you a new man.

:)) hopefully she doesn't do that....i find out that is my job to do it...so boring..

i would like mom to find me a new man...it woud be perfect! lol :))
i do trust her 100%.:)))

well, i guess i'll go to sleap, it is 1.16 am...so i am so sleapy:))

tks a lot, my dear.