Long distance (rather lengthy)

Well...here comes that time again...same girl again...different problem :(
Shes working her butt off trying to make a long distance relationship work with a guy who lives far away in the other side of the country. Everytime i ask her if she would ever give me a chance she gets very very hurt...because here she is trying to make a long distance one work(which usually dont) she tells me that it is a tough question she cant think of an answer for. its obvious that she loves my relationship with her as a good friend. and it hurts her every time i ask her to break it off with a guy she says she loves but has only met once. Its obvious to me that her relationship will fail...(She doesnt know but he wants to have children with her) she is 16 i am 17..which makes this sort of possessive attitude especially creepy.

so theres my story...im willing to back off on asking her because i know that the only thing i get from doing that is a crumbling friendship...

Im going to just try other relationships..but will be ready to pick up the pieces if their relationship fails.

Man, I thought this was going to be lengthy. ;)

I'm new, so I don't know who this girl is, but hey, I want to help anyway.

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Originally Posted by joe1234 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Shes working her butt off trying to make a long distance relationship work with a guy who lives far away in the other side of the country.

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It happens. People get attached...moving on...

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Originally Posted by joe1234 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Everytime i ask her if she would ever give me a chance she gets very very hurt...because here she is trying to make a long distance one work(which usually dont)

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Yeah, bad move here.

If you want a future with this girl, DO NOT try and break them up. (and yes, that's what you're subtly doing with statements like that)

Be her friend. Comfort her when she's upset, help her out, talk to If you date her, do you want a guy to do this behind your back? No. So don't do it behind this guy's.

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Originally Posted by joe1234 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

its obvious that she loves my relationship with her as a good friend. and it hurts her every time i ask her to break it off with a guy she says she loves but has only met once.

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Again, then stop. She obviously might have feelings for you, but she's a standup person for putting them on hold and trying to make this work. Respect that.

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Originally Posted by joe1234 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

she is 16 i am 17..which makes this sort of possessive attitude especially creepy.

so theres my story...im willing to back off on asking her because i know that the only thing i get from doing that is a crumbling friendship...

Im going to just try other relationships..but will be ready to pick up the pieces if their relationship fails.

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Then you have nothing to worry about. 99.999% of 16 year old relationships eventually fail.

Be her friend. Be nice to her, and DON'T disrespect this other guy. She'll never forgive you for it, and you'll lose whatever chance you have.

yep.. you preety much said it all..i had it all figured out before i posted this..but i love to hear the feedback from these forums..

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Originally Posted by joe1234 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

yep.. you preety much said it all..i had it all figured out before i posted this..but i love to hear the feedback from these forums..

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Cool. Good luck to you!

Just talked to this guy from washington...he seems very cool but when he talks about my friend he still seems very creepy. Im always there to catch her if they break up but in the meantime im gonna explore some of my other venues:D