Friend Needs Help!!!

my friend has been talking to me about this guy for the past few weeks. she just started college and the guy she likes is a freshman as well. a couple examples of his behavior towards her are his helping her with a project and sitting next to her touching her arm. also, he'll sign on aim to say goodnight to her and he gets kinda stuttery when he talks to her. she says that sometimes he can be distant though. anyway, she wanted me to ask whether you all thinks he likes her or what she can do to figure it out. she's really shy so i doubt she'll just straight ask him.

Obviously. Tell her to stop being a pussy.

If they are both shy, one of them is going to have to step out of their comfort zone or they will NEVER get together.

The next time they have direct, prolonged eye contact, tell her to smile shyly and ask the boy if he is EVER going to ask her out.

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

The next time they have direct, prolonged eye contact, tell her to smile shyly and ask the boy if he is EVER going to ask her out.

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That is soooo cute. That will totally work.

thanks for the advice, but she's not going to do it. guaranteed. i gave her some ideas, but can any of you think of good subtle ways to fish for info on whether he likes her or not? she's really bad at flirting, but my guess is she'd be willing to something a shot if it wasn't to obvious.

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Originally Posted by TDurden [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

thanks for the advice, but she's not going to do it. guaranteed. she's only had one boyfriend before and is really self conscious. i gave her some ideas, but can any of you think of good subtle ways to fish for info on whether he likes her or not? she's really bad at flirting, but my guess is she'd be willing to something a shot if it wasn't to obvious.

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It sounds pretty obvious to me that he already does.

Problem is, he probably ain't sure if she like him.

From the post it seems like his actions would prove he's attracted to her, especially if he's shy, too. But, no one can know for sure just based on what you've written. But the odds are pretty heavy that he's into her also.

So, she just needs to ask him if he wants to do something sometime. Like, if he's helping witth a project, she could suggets they go get something to eat for a break. Doesn't have to be a date, but depending upon how he reacts to it, maybe she'll get a bit mor information on how he feels. And, if everyone in this forum is right about him liking her, maybe he'll see it as a date and make his feelings abit more obvious.

so she asked him for a bite to eat, and he got all snappy and short with her. really out of the blue. i told her to just lay low for a little while.

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Originally Posted by TDurden [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

so she asked him for a bite to eat, and he got all snappy and short with her. really out of the blue. i told her to just lay low for a little while.

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Oh, that sucks for her. She doesn't need that.

Do you know this guy at all? Could you find out what he thinks of her without being too obvious about it?

i don't know him at all. they all go to school together about an hour from where i live. they live in the same building.

They live in the same damn building??

Dear god, what's stopping her?!

Y'know what? I think you should tell her to find someone else. If these two get together and have children, the kids will be so painfully shy they'll have to be homeschooled. They'll be too shy to be born.

Why do people like this find each other? Why?

hahahaha

it does seem to happen that way, doesn't it?

she should just say something. but she keeps saying that she's deathly afraid of rejection and that it'll be horrible if he turns her down. which, unless this guy's a total douche, won't happen.

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Originally Posted by TDurden [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

she should just say something. but she keeps saying that she's deathly afraid of rejection and that it'll be horrible if he turns her down. which, unless this guy's a total douche, won't happen.

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I don't know... he was being a bit of a twat when she wanted to go get something to eat. I see where her insecurity might not be too far off.

After that little exchange, it's HIM who should be doing the asking. Why isn't he doing it? What the hell is wrong with this guy? I wonder if he's got a previous commitment thing going with some girl back home or something. He's acting like a weasel.

she says that she's sure he's not dating anyone.

i say that he's casually interested and also kind of an ass. also my guess is that he, like her, isn't very experienced with the whole dating thing.