Unless of course you've had the misfortune of encountering only drama queens, you should consider that maybe the reason this always happens to you is because of something you do (edit- vash; great minds think alike). Also, if these girls are so childish and immature, do they really have the patience to scheme away at mind games with you for months?
Yes, many girls want you to pursue them, not just to feel wanted, or to follow the 'dating rules', but also to filter out guys who are only looking for a quickie from them and will therefore not put in the energy to pursue them. Speaking of such guys, let me quote you: "I like having a woman, because mastrurbation gets kinda boring"
of course, if have it all wrong and you're not 'like that' at all, then why complain about some childish girls? just stick to the mature straight-forward ones.