He said he like me, many times.. then.. that I have mental problems cause I do too

This is my first post here.. looking for help from people who know will listen to me about this..

Don't know what to think, what to see.. how to see things..

That guy and I are friend for 1 yrs and half now..

After about 10 months of friendship..
We flirted but it was cute and light flirt.. text each other cute messages.. call..
we would have these really intense and interresting conversation.. and he opened up to me more then some people.. he told me about his mom who passed away 2 yrs ago.. things he dont talk about openly at all..

We would talk with friends and he would say something.. and i would say, ha! i knew you would say that.. and he would say.. ya you know me.. and me.. i do yah! and would smile at each other.. something really close and nice..

He invited me on dates before.. 3 times.. and each time he backed down.. saying, nah its not a good idea.. and then not talk to me for a while.. then come back in my life..
One time i said, Listen.. whats going on? and he got almost mad.. saying forget abot me ok? and he didnt talk to me for a while.. and came back after a while...

I am a really comprehensible girl so, I just said ok.. he got scared.. i cant be mad at him for that.. and we would be friend again like nothing happened..

in october he said he had feelings for me.. that he been for a while.. and cause he went to college outside the city, he live in a dorm and we coudnt see right away.. we were texting and calling.. and saying how we would kiss when we see.. cuddle be together..

Then, he got problem at school and said, i cant see you right now.. i need to fix stuff with school.. im about to get kicked out..

I said, ok take the time you need to fix everything, ill wait for you to have time..

I didnt hear from him for a month..
then, around thanksgiving..

He sent me a message on msn saying he got kicked out of school.. and he was back home.. we talked and we were close like before.. but after 3 days he started to push me away, he was extremely down and didnt want to see anyone..

His friend would call and text and he didnt answer them, but when i was the one doing it.. he was texting me back right away..

Then, he was one night on msn.. he come back home and he is drunk.. he say "i like you.. do you like me?" and i say "lol its a real question or you quote Borat" and he said both..

I told him yes i do like you

and then he didnt answer for a few.. cause he was in a game at the same time, he came back and said, i dont feel good.. ill go sleep.. ill talk to you tomorrow..

Then, he saw something I wrote on a website we both go to, its similar to myspace/facebook but different.. but we have profiles there.

In my profile i say "i have feelings for ..name of the person I talk about here.."

He sent me a message saying "what you wrote about me is crazy" and i said.. "what do you mean its crazy" and he said its just crazy insane..

I sent him a private message asking..
hey i know im smart (cause he always say im very smart and we joke about that) but what do you mean its crazy insane? do you mean that i have mental problem cause i like you or that its kewl that i do..

he said.. not to be mean but i think your kinda f-BEEP-ed in the head if you have feelings for me

I didnt answer to that yet..
Im shocked, pissed and confused..

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I don't know what to think.. but most importantly.. i don't know what to do.. at all..

Also, i know that everything he said to me is true.. him having problems at school.. its not just an excuses he said to not see me.. he really had problems
(i had people telling me, you sure he had problem or it was just an excuses.. but i know its true.. he was failling his tri and things were bad)

I thank you for your answers and your help with my problem

I think that maybe he did have feelings for you, but wasn't sure how to pursue anything further with you. So, basically he got scared. It also sounds like he has other issues in his life that he needs to straighten out before he can get involved with anyone else.

Be his friend for now if you can handle that. I wouldn't expect anything more from him, anytime soon.

A person can only handle the hot/cold thing so long.

I agree with him. The guy can't even keep it together long enough to stay in school, and it isn't really all that hard to maintain the minimum GPA. Furthermore, he is a drama-mama (...I like you, I don't like you; I want to kiss you, I can't handle kissing you, blah blah blah). Is this what you want in your future? Can't you see this getting to be old at some point?

I'm sure you are a nice girl. I think you deserve a guy who is a bit more pulled-together and decisive.

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I agree with him. The guy can't even keep it together long enough to stay in school, and it isn't really all that hard to maintain the minimum GPA. Furthermore, he is a drama-mama (...I like you, I don't like you; I want to kiss you, I can't handle kissing you, blah blah blah). Is this what you want in your future? Can't you see this getting to be old at some point?

I'm sure you are a nice girl. I think you deserve a guy who is a bit more pulled-together and decisive.

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Nice girls do tend to catch my eye. :)

Oh, honey. Run away. I understand the intense pull a weird guy can have on a girl, but believe me, you don't really want this. This guy will **** up your life, and at the end of it all, when it's raining fire and everything is exploding around you, all he'll say is, "I told you so.".

Run away.

run... fast

What the hell is wrong with that guy? to give you that final answer and call you crazy? that is crazy. Anyways, either way I say dig deeper. I have had problems in my life where I would burst out and say stupid things then regret them later...I also had problems with school and such. He may be just going through some confusing times. Just don't rush anything, he does seem unstable. How old is he and you?

The minute someone acts as if the relationship is based on THEIR timetable, get out. Leave him be. His loss. If you get too involved, you will see how controlling he would be. Don't let it get to that point. Matter of fact, cut him off completely, doesn't even sound like he wold make a good friend, much less more.