what would should l do

my girl of 1yr is planning to go visit a former admirer who lives in the same town as the ex boyfriend . She says the guy is no more after her and that they are just friends. l told her the whole thing sounds funny,infact, in mine entire life of dating l have never heard anything as bizzare as that . l told her no girl in her right senses will give such an excuse. am really disappointed and am thinking of giving her an ultimaltum that if she dare make the trip she should consider the relationship to be over. Is this the best way to go about it or there is something else l could do other than the ultimaltum.

Treat the whole thing casually. Suddenly become friends with some of your former admirers.

thanx icequeen, thats exactly what l will do. is this by chance a way of seeking attention or making me jealous.

Its a way to see how she reacts in one sense or another. It allows you not to sound so overbearing either, like you might possibly pre-assume. This allows the situation to draw out without flaw.

That was a good idea Ice-Queen.

Dont give her a choice.... I advise you to talk to her and let her know how you feel on the subject, and tell her that you feel uncomfortable with the situation and that it will hurt you by her going to where ever she is going to. Now with her knowing how you feel and you telling her in a civil manner....... If she decided on still going then obviously she doesnt care enough for you... just my .02

Homie, no ultimatums.

if you give an ultimatum you seem really jealous and insecure.

I knew MVP would have to get in on this one. lol

Go with her. And tell her to tell her friend to get a date.

Or just let her go. But if she continues this odd behavior. give her the boot. If she was my girl and wanted to hang out with some guy, yeah i'd feel wierd, but I'm not her owner. But if she wanted to all of a sudden see this guy more often (ie, she's never brought him up before but now goes to see him once a week or once every other week) it's goodbye.

In my eyes, the girl can do what she wants as long as you're not married, but you should STILL be #1 priority in her life if it's a serious relationship. Not the ONLY person, but you do get top billing.