The "Game"

Okay, let's see. Met this woman on match.com. She's smart, in good physical shape...a nice person. I've already checked her out entirely and she's legit...in my line of work, blind trust is not an option :)

We emailed a few times. We met for lunch--supposed to be at noon, but she called an hour before and asked to move it up 45 minutes . Made a big deal about how she was going to be busy all weekend. Continued to email. Then, we agreed to meet again. She cancels at the last moment because she has to cram work into four days to make it a three day weekend--again "very busy." I notice that she regularly checks my online profile.

I guess my question is this...okay, she's busy with her life. So, do I blow her off and see if she reinstigates things or just cut back on email communication because I'm busy, too ?

My natural reaction is to COMPLETELY blow her off permanently; but that's CAM in his normal mode.

tell her how horny you are and all the nasty things u wanna do to her shell bring u lots of love ;) it always works

Tell her (nicely) you will give it one more try. This way she knows you are losing your patience. If she flakes on you again, tell her to call you when she is willing to keep a date.

BTW - I doubt this is a game in her mind. She probably really IS busy, and has a hard time prioritizing her life. My sister is this way. I know it is annoying.

Thanks for the advice. Yeah, I think I'll hold off emailing for a couple of days and then (maybe) just approach it from Vashti's suggestion.

I'm sure that she doesn't think of it as a game. Rather, I think she is just very self-absorbed, which is not uncommon these days.

Again, thanks.

Maybe she's new to the world of computer dating and is just in a panic, freaking out and changing her mind. I don't think it's necessarily indicative of what she's actually like.

Busy...life...?

I feel like I'm looking into a mirror.

is self-absorbed a new term for uninterested?

Self-absorbed is more like, say, narcissism.

Ah, but don't worry Mis...I think I got the sarcasm :)

I think Giga might be on to something here...the woman is probably just new to online dating. I'm relatively new to it, too. Met one person several months ago and flew out to visit her over a weekend. So,this is my second adventure in online dating which makes "reading" the other person a bit difficult.

She's emailed me twice today, so that is good I suppose. In fact, she even emailed this afternoon with alternative meeting times.

I appreciate everyone's advice.

And I do understand "very busy"--I work seven days a week.