Any one in my situation?

I just basically want to say that I am involved with a women that I am ready to spend the rest of my life with and I know this is insane but she has a boyfriend that makes her life a living hell. Please, before you even think of any negative comments about her I would like to explain that we know eachother for several years now and although I had a huge crush on her, she never gave me the benefit of the doubt until she found out that her boyfriend was cheating on her with escorts. We usually get together once in a blue-(I have to mention making love to her takes my breath away.) I just can't conprehend this love triangle. I am 100% certain that I will make her happy for the rest of her life, I have told her over and over how I love her and only have the best intentions for us in the future. When we are together I know she is happy by my side, I can feel it. Why is she still hanging on to a man that makes her miserable???

Clearly, she thinks she deserves to be miserable.

What does he have that you don't?

[QUOTE=Gigabitch;264160]Clearly, she thinks she deserves to be miserable.

What does he have that you don't?[/QUO


The only one thing he has going for himself is a good occupation, not that I don't either, but this is the kinda woman that is down to earth and is not after men for money.

Perhaps she enjoys the drama of having such a rocky relationship with her main squeeze with you waiting in the background. Perhaps she even uses you as a way to make her main guy jealous. In any case, if she was really into you, he'd be history, and since that isn't the case, I would move on.

How does this one compare?

I have feelings for my girlfriends friend. We all had a child at approximately the same time.
And surprise, we are all having relationship problems..
I know this sounds, and is, selfish and horrible.
Her friend and I keep "accidently" bumping into each other at the local gym, there is a definate spark between us and it us becoming unbearable
She keeps dropping little hints to my girlfriend. To top it all, she is getting married in a couple of months time to a man who she clearly isn't happy with, she has told my girlfriend this.
Wrongly or rightly, I can't stop thinking about her and I know, by the way she acts around me, the feeling is mutual.
What the Fudge should I do???????????????

Stick to your own thread.

I find that doing anything behind someone's back is a bad idea. Not like there is many options here, she either leaves him and continues the relationship with you or she leaves you eventually and lies to him by continuing their relationship. Maybe it all somehow blows up in her face and she is left with no one, but considering you are a fool for this woman I think you would be with her even if she was the village idiot hooker.

haha negative thoughts huh? to start it off, you're stupid, and this girl that you like is stupid. blah blah... you can say and think what you want of me, but i have been in this situation and it's stupid.

you're hoping and believing that one day she will leave him yet do you really think this will happen?? he has already cheated on her and she IS still with him. she ****ed you and she is still with him? she tells you that she loves you, yet again she is still with him. yes, she is dumb for being with him, but are you dumber for believing that one day she will just come running to you, only to run back to him? cut your losses while you're not in the negative yet and move on.

alright, on the other hand, you don't wanna hear all this shit and you wanna be with her. well buddy, that's your choice, you're looking for opinions and i gave you mine. by all means you can keep wishing, but in the end, you'll wonder why you're so miserable.

raverboy