I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. We have not had sex but have done everything else, I didn’t realise it was a major problem until I kept putting it off. My boyfriend has given me ‘deadlines’ over time but has now said I have 2 weeks left for us to have sex or its over.
I started counselling sessions a few weeks ago which have helped, my fear is the pain of entry which we haven’t even attempted. I have bought a book to help me and so far it’s good. My counsellor saw me cry when she asked if I would be heartbroken if it was over, she said he should be dumped for setting a deadline even though I am trying now - but she realised she shouldn’t speak her mind!
I know he has waited patiently but I have cried loads in front of him this weekend and he said the deadline isn’t fair but said I would keep putting it off. I told him I am devastated as he could end up with someone else. He said that’s life and relationships. Everything else is great and we got on well its just this problem that causes arguments. I want to marry this guy but fear it could end in tears.