Im so confused right now about my girlfriend :(

Im in such a big dilema, its about my girlfriend.

I get anoyed about her acting different around others when we go out, she smokes more, she acts like she's really really cool, she acts like the person she isnt.

Tonight i told her, I tried to be considerate, but she just wouldnt accept it, she was just getting more angry and then it seemed like she didnt care.

I apolgised and said i was sorry for bringing it up so heavily. But she still seemed like she couldnt care what i had to say.

She's being so arogant and kind of obnocious (sp?)

She's been so angry, i asked her why and said that "I know it's me, please tell me what im doing wrong, i can make it better for us"

She just said nothing.

Im always trying to be considerate of her feelings, i think shes just too immature. but she never used to be.
She's changed since we started going out.

Im so confused as to keep her and try as much as i can to change her, or make her see how she's changed from what she used to be.
Or to let her go, and move on.

I love her so much, but i think there's nothing else i can do.

I think it's pretty obvious what you have to do.

Well, once you realize you can't change her, anyway.

Oh, by the way. You can't change her. Don't try.

Changing a person? That's interesting. If she is not the same person you either learn to deal with her new choice of who she is or get rid of her.

This is probably the reason you aren't enjoying sexual contact with her. I think you should move on... maybe try being without a girlfriend for a while. This one is warping your perception of what a relationship should be like.

Expecting her to stay the same person she was when you met her is unreasonable at your age. If you don't like the direction she's going, you don't have to go with her.

Do you feel guilty about the idea of breaking up with her right after having sex?

kind of, mostly because i love her.

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Originally Posted by JamesBrimble [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Im in such a big dilema, its about my girlfriend.

I get anoyed about her acting different around others when we go out, she smokes more, she acts like she's really really cool, she acts like the person she isnt.

Tonight i told her, I tried to be considerate, but she just wouldnt accept it, she was just getting more angry and then it seemed like she didnt care.

I apolgised and said i was sorry for bringing it up so heavily. But she still seemed like she couldnt care what i had to say.

She's being so arogant and kind of obnocious (sp?)

She's been so angry, i asked her why and said that "I know it's me, please tell me what im doing wrong, i can make it better for us"

She just said nothing.

Im always trying to be considerate of her feelings, i think shes just too immature. but she never used to be.
She's changed since we started going out.

Im so confused as to keep her and try as much as i can to change her, or make her see how she's changed from what she used to be.
Or to let her go, and move on.

I love her so much, but i think there's nothing else i can do.

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i dont think it's so much she's changed as much as you're starting to see a more full identity of her. so many people i know seem to make this mistake where they think someone is a certain way from the first several months to a year or even two, yet actually opening to see the full person takes quite a while.

so in a nutshell....run!