Why do hot girls wanna be hot (and why are they so shallow?)
What makes a girl 'hot', and who decides so? I honestly think the word is overused and overrated. Everyone's view of 'hot' is different. To me, it's not a very positive term. Beautiful doesn't mean the same as hot to me. Neither does cute. You're not born hot, and you don't grow it. It kind of just spreads like a disease within certain social groups. They travel in packs, and their fake tans seem to seep into the skin and takes control of their minds.
When I was in high school, I had a girl friend who was awesome. Very beautiful girl who was friends with anybody, despite their social status. Well, one day she started dressing differently. Her parents didn't want her wearing loose/baggy clothing and told her to stop being fat. She must've been 135 lbs. The next school year school year, she started dressing different and she was too skinny. She was wearing belly tees and short skirts. She was becoming 'hot'. And she slowly started hanging out more with the popular kids. She eventually stopped talking to her old friends completely.
Hot girls tend to go after a-hole guys who more than often don't respect women as much as they really should. These are the same shallow guys that you'll never see with a moderately attractive girlfriend. They both make each other look good. The guys are even more shallow though, always quick to find another girl who is even more hot than the one he's with. And I've heard hot girls say that they date guys like that because they can't find a real guy who's willing to treat them with respect. And because of that, guys with average looks don't really take girls like that seriously.
These are the same girls whose photos are used to make fake MySpace friend requests to get you to view their porn site. These girls didn't just become hot. They made it happen themselves. Excessive make-up, excessive hair styling, fake tanning, and most likely working out a lot. Yeah, keeping in shape is healthy, but I don't think excessive tanning looks healthy at all. It looks gross. Why do these girls want to look like this? These girls think they are god's gift to earth. Why do they purposely do it to themselves? If you want to look like a girl who recently starred in a porn flick, then stop complaining about how you don't understand why you have to date a-holes. And I hear the same thing over and over... that a hot girl lacks confidence and education and she feels like she needs a good looking man to make her look and feel better about herself. That's bull. They have tons of confidence. They don't need confidence when they look like that.
Unless you're after a sexy body, no average guy is going to take her serious. And it has nothing to do with confidence. Confidence or not, why try to go after a girl who is too in love with herself? The vast majority of these girls seldom ever give the average guy a chance at anything. And as an average guy, I'm not too worried about that either. I am concerned about 'hotness' overtaking our society though. A confident woman is lovely, but too much confidence can be a turn off. And the average women are being plagued by the 'hot' bug and because of this, the average guy, the 'nice' guy, won't stand a chance and may become extinct someday.
I once sent a message to a 'hot' girl on MySpace. I was really interested in her for who she was, and she had great interests in movies and music. However, after a couple of conversations, despite having similar interests, her side of the messaging slimmed down to responses of "cool" and "ok." Because of that, I lost interest in her. If she wanted to continue an actual conversation, she would write back. After about a week, I asked her if I said something wrong. I decided to call her bluff. I told her it was because she was too 'hot' to even associate with me. "It's okay. You're shallow. I understand." She defended herself and then said we probably shouldn't talk. I was fine with that. However, I wanted to prove something to myself.
Back in April, three friends and myself decided to conduct a little online social experiment on the 'ol MySpace. We wanted to find out if the majority of hot girls are shallow. This experiment consisted of myself, a guy friend of 12 years, another guy friend and his wife (we had to get a woman in on this experiment). We all created two (2) fake MySpace accounts each. One being a fake account posing as your typical 'hot' guy, and the other account posing as the average guy. All eight (8) accounts were set up to look like they had been active (by adding random friends and asking them to leave us comments to help out with an experiment). All profiles looked genuine. And we kinda sat on the profiles for a month not really doing anything.
A little over a month later, we were all together and decided on getting on with the experiment. We had established accounts with legitimate looking friends and profiles. Each of us were to try to make a friend connection with four (4) different types of 'hot' girls... from both of our profiles (average and 'hot' guy). That means between the four of us, 16 girls were contacted. We made sure the girls had logged in recently, and if we didn't get a response within a week, we found someone else (and when we finally did get a response from the original person, we just blocked them). To make this interesting, one of our guys' roles were reversed. The 'hot' guy was the 'nice guy' and the average guy played the role of the player/ladies-man.
The four types of hot girls we contacted were: the party/sorority girls, familiy oriented girls, eclectic/artsy/musician girl, and the "I'm a geek too because I play video games/read books" girl. All of our guys had similar jobs and were college students. Music interests were generally the same as well. Average guys tended to be more into average guy stuff: books, video games, movies, comedy, etc. Hot guys tended to be more into their cars, hot girls, models, clubbing, etc. The girls we contacted seemed to be generally nice people according to their profiles. Some claiming to want to meet anyone who's nice enough (yeah right).
The results seemed to be like this: Most of the party/sorority/drunk girls seemed to favor the hot guys even though they expressed interest in other hot girls and hinted at sexual advances, not trying hard to make decent conversation, and mostly throwing "you look hella fine" here and there. The average guys mostly didn't stand a chance. Attempt at conversation about her interests started up fine, but the conversation faded after a week or two, which made it easier, not having to keep in touch with so many girls. The average guy being the player seemed to get a better response from the girls, but still got dropped. The hot guy playing the 'nice guy' just got better conversation responses from the girls.
The family oriented girls were the ones who expressed interest in being close to their families and had pictures of them with their families. At least two of these girls were country girls from the south. Southern hospitality? Maybe.... These girls seemed to be pretty friendly but the advances coming from the average guy were not appreciated, and he was dropped. Advances from the hot guys were often responded with "you're sexy too." All of the average guys lost out on this one, and some of the hot guys eventually got dropped (my friend's wife got a little too dirty).
The eclectic/artsy/musician girl. The girls with rockstar hair, fake blood used to imitate cutting, and self-proclaimed hippie (who didn't look the part at all) who plays acoustic guitar. These girls favored the average guy more because he won her over with discussion on guitar playing and same concerts they went to. Hot guy was less popular here because he didn't really talk much about music that much. However, when both guys started being flirtatious, the hot guy won and the average guy was told that she's seeing someone (by at least 2 girls).
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