needing some advise please..

I need some advise, or just thought in an area.. Hoping you know what I should do.. :upset:

K, my ex-boyfriend from over the holidays this past year.. Well, we had been friends since. I had gotten over him rather quickly, realizing that he was too weak for me. We kept in touch, just as friends, and just through emails, occassionally. I emailed K a few days ago, just updating him on how I've been, and what I've been up to. I told him about school, and how that was going for me. I told him about my 3 jobs and juggling them around my kids and school.. I also told him about J! I told him how I was living life for me, and also dating and seeing friends. That I felt that my life is finally on the right track.

Yesterday I recieve this email:

Hi Tiffanie, My name is Kendra and I'm K's fiance yes K is doing well and glad you are doing well, but we would really appreciate it if you would not email us. We met after you(He does not want you to think that he had something on the side as I'm the type to play that way.) Please again we would appreciate if you would leave us alone and not send any more photos, emails, or hard copies. I'm not trying to start any drama, I'm just asking nicely for you to not respond. Thank you and we are very happy you have someone special in your life. Kendra

WTF?? He is still friends with both his ex-wives, or at least he was... Now, out of no where he's engaged!!!!?? WOW!!! I guess that just confirms just how weak he was! It's no wonder to me now, that he kept asking when my divorce would be final! He just want to marry someone!!!! I guess, anyone!!! pretty crazy! wouldn't you agree??

Anyway, my concern does NOT lie with K! Just to clarify that for you! But it's with J.. I'm really scared now! What if J is just another K?? Yesterday while J and I were out for dinner, I started talking about my kids, and some silly things they were doing lately. Well, then he jumps in and says that he's a little nervous about having kids someday.. WTF!!!???? Where the hell did that come from??? I told him that I don't want anymore kids, and he said he didn't want any.. He was married for 2 years, and they were never having kids.. So, what happend with that?? Then, we're talking at his house, and I told him how I'm affraid sometimes of what to say, or how to say something to him, or email, because I'm just affraid that he's just gonna run again.. He looked at me and said that that was normal in a relationship. That there's always doubts and insecurities.. "relationship"?? I mean, we're only dating one another.. but a "relationship" If you're in a "relationship" don't you see that person almost everyday?? and tell each other how you feel about the other person??

Part of me is soooooo fricken confused right now... I'm affraid that he may need time still, just like K did. although K didn't take the time that he needed, but that's him.. I'm more concerned about my heart here.. and will it just get broken again?

Should I just back off from J for awhile?? I'm really starting to consider it. but will I loose him in the process?

If you have any advise, I could sure use it!! :sad2:

You were right. He was too weak for you. So weak, he had to have his new fiancee write that email.

I think you should email back something snippy to her, just because they both deserve it. Tell her to go right ahead, because if you wanted to date a pussy, you'd be a lesbian.

Man, it pisses me off when people do this crap! I can't believe he was such a spineless creep that he couldn't tell you himself.