A girl and a band, little advice needed!
Hi, I'm new to this forum. Also I'm not from a English speaking country so please excuse my grammatical faults.
Heres the story:
I'm a 20 year old guy and I play in a band. We were looking for a new singer. I had some luck and found us a female singer from a music forum. So on the first rehearsal she was absolutely brilliant we were all amazed about her voice and shes also funny and pretty good looking. So I went home after the rehearsal and suddenly I just cant stop thinking about her and its getting worse and worse with every rehearsal. I feel like having a butterflies in my stomach, my hart is beating harder and I've completely lost my appetite. So I have this big crush for her. So why not asking him out right?
I wish it would be that simple.The main problem is the age, shes 24 and I'm not that sort of a guy who looks older, I'm rather the one who cant buy booze without been asked ID. So the age gap isn't really that enormous right but being 20 your like at the beginning of your independent life and being 24 your at the point where you have usually achieved something and want someone beside you who's also in the same life stage or even ahead. And the second problem is the band, we are not some fools joking around, we are taking it very seriously. So I don't want any emotional problems between the band members.
So its like my hart is yelling DO something! and my brain tells my that its a unreal situation- leave it, the crush will go over. Whats your advice? maybe you have been in a similar situation? What would you do ?
Thanks for your help!