Help me PLEASSSSSSSSSSEEEE!!

Ok so i've never been so desperate as to actually come to a website to ask people I don't even know for advice(nothing wrong with that by the way) but heres the thing. I've been with this girl for 4 years we've dated for 3. The past year has been rough to say the least. I broke up with her a year ago and acted like a complete ass. Mostly because I was afraid and didn't know what to do I didn;t want her to hurt and not be able to let go(crazy yes I know) but I broke up because we both just needed time apart. well 4 months later I'm dating a new girl and long story short I find myself saying im'e in love with her when I'me really in love with my ex and I'm trying to replicate exactly what I used to have because I never stoped loving her. Well this girl and I break up, who by the way even looks similar to my ex. I start talking to my exagain and we slowly start to fall back together. The problem shes afraid I'le hurt her again and is very cautious about us but I told her that never again will I ever let her go again and I love her more than life...and shes dating the guy who was there for her doing the breakup(and I know she doesn't care about him cuz we've already had sex and basically an affair while shes is still with him) but she refuses to break up with him and give me a chance to show her i'me a new man. I just want to know what I have to do to get my baby girl back. I miss her so much and am willing to do anything just to be with her again.
sorry bout the length(this is the short version):upset::upset:

im not a girl, but you just have to let the thing run it's course. showing great lengths and becoming a mere puppy dog isn't attractive to most girls. besides, you end up losing self-respect, and a girl doesnt like that.

your ex likes you for you, and she has to figure this out on her own. showing her how much you love her by doing anything is ridiculous and will probably only make her stay with the other guy.

and for god's sakes, man up and stop being a pussy! i hate it when i see a guy becoming desperate.

well manning up and being an ass got me into this situation and being a "pussy" isn't my issue I love this girl and I want her back, hands down nothing else matters, because without this girl my life doesn't seem complete.

well apparently we have different definitions of "manning up". in what i mean by "manning up" is by not be such at a position to do anything for a girl. as i said before, she likes you for you and becoming a mere type of slave is demeaning for you and she wouldnt find that attractive.

there's not much you can do really and i dont mean to sound negative, but it's true. if you respect her, just give her space and let her decide if she likes him. but that was an asshole thing to do though, have her have sex with you while she is going out with a guy that was there during your break-up.

im probably nice by trying to give advice to you, but if i were that guy, id love beat the shit out of you for doing something like that.

if you feel a lot of regret though from doing this to her, then this healthy and good for you. if you dont end up with her anymore, take this experience and apply it to your next girl and not be such an asshole.

the short version... you're only missing the good times with her. with your next gf, you were trying to replicate the previous relationship, which is why you think that you miss your ex, but you really don't. it's time to move on because you were the one that called it quits.

raverboy

no I really love her, i never parsay called it quits it was more time for us to find ourselves, but I know for sure shes the one for me

You sound flaky as hell, impatient, desperate. I don't trust you either.

I think having sex with her while she was with someone else was a big mistake. It really disrespects the relationship you say you want with her. I'd find it hard to believe you too.

Tell her that you want her back and try to be consistent in your actions. Demand that she leave him. Quit getting under her skirt while she's not even your girlfriend.