Is he over her? How do I move forward?
So I've been dating this guy now for about 7-8 months. We have a really good relationship-we spend every waking moment together, and don't get sick of each other. We just blend well. Lately, we've been having many conversations about "our future" (For the record, I'm not the one who initiates these conversations). We're thinking of moving in together in June, and he talks about us being together 10 years down the road. Anyway, that's all fine and dandy. My problem is that I don't know how he feels about his ex girlfriend. They dated for like 6 years, and broke abut about 2 years ago. When I first met him, he would tell me what a wreck he was over her, and all that. Well, he swears he's over her, and they're good friends now. I'm all fine with that, I'm happy they've remained friends. But her stuff is EVERYWHERE. There's pictures of her, and them together all over his house; she still has a closet full of clothes in his house. Their names and initials are carved on the patio. She's just everywhere. She now lives like 3 hours away, and like I said earlier, they've been apart for about 2 years.
It bugs me to no end. I've confronted him about it on several occasions, and we used to get in fights about it, and now he's more sympathetic about it. He agrees that it would probably be hard for him, if I had my ex boyfriend plastered all over my house. But NOTHING is done about it. He just tells me how I need to get over it, and how he loves me, and that's his past. But its hard to be talking about a future together, when his past is constantly slapping me in the face. I feel like I'm in her "turf." I'm getting to the point where I just cant deal with it anymore. It needs to be about him and I, and the 2 of us, and her.
What are your opinions? Am I being unreasonable? Id love to just "get over it", but I don't know how. PLEASE HELP!:sad2: