I just met a new woman...
My girlfriend and I have been together for about 3 years now. She lives overseas and we see each other every two-three months (I fly there). We have had our share of problems I believe mostly because of the distance. I used to be married, my country’s laws are very different and it takes time for a person to get divorced (I’m legally divorced in the US but not there) so we haven’t been able to get married (since she couldn’t come and visit me and get married in the US). We had some problems in the past, a couple of times she went out with another person for a period of time, one time she told me she felt “confused” about another man, etc, I went through all that and tried to overcome, be understandable of the fact I wasn’t around much and we were not married yet. I did it because I wanted to make my relationship work. During those three years I haven’t been unfaithful to her, haven’t dated another woman, etc. We share many things, but not the idea of children and family, she doesn’t want to have kinds, not now, not tomorrow, she even told me that I should consider being with her if that I what I want. That concerns me a lot for my future since I’d love to have a family. I don’t have kids yet and I’m 33.
She finally got to visit me this week; the problem is, about 3 weeks ago, I met another person, sweet, funny, simple, sincere, etc. Without planning it we both started to feel a lot for each other, talk over the phone regularly, share the same interests in outdoor activities, life, travel, family, children, etc. I feel extremely well on her company and she feels the same with me. We have talked about it, about what we want for life, future, etc. I feel extremely confused, on one side, I don’t want to throw 3 years through the window for a person I just met, on the other side my feeling are so strong about this new woman that I feel I’m betraying her with my own girlfriend!. I miss her so much and all I do is think about her. I feel so bad because my girlfriend is here and we had plans to start living together the next year but if I continue feeling like this my life will be a mess and my girlfriend’s too, and I don’t want to do that. I would prefer to make the right decision and stay with the woman that I can make happy and that can make me happy too.
I'm not the kind of man that switch woman fast, I prefer stable relations. The girl I just met share also the same feelings.
I'd like to know others opinion on this matter.