Why dont men date bigger women?

What is wrong with men? why are they so shallow? I am an attractive, intelligent 20 year old woman. I have a great sense of humor and people tell me i have a shining personality. I am also about the nicest girl ever but I have such a hard time finding dates. I know it is because Iam overweight. I have no problems with my weight. Im a confident girl. I have learned over the years to love myself. Im one of those rare people who doesnt judge on appearances so I dont understand why people do it. I have had men so much as tell me they couldnt date me cuz i was to fat. I dont understand. Why do men do this? What is the deal? Men seem to always avoid big women. Whats up with that?

How overweight are you?

Being overweight is unhealthy. If you can't control your eating habits what else can't you control? What lead you down that path to begin with? Insecurity, depression, what? Are you just lazy?

There's more to it than shallowness.

Personally, every girl I've ever been with was overweight. (Partially because practically every girl in Texas is overweight.) I am very fit and athletic, but it never really bothered me much. It helped that every skinny girl I've ever met who was interested in me was an arrogant bitch. But that's me. And I am not the norm.

Basically, men won't date you because they aren't physically attracted to you. It's perfectly normal and really nothing to hate them for. Granted, if they tell you that to your face they are complete scum. But that's beside the point. If you're overweight, that's one thing. But if you really don't care about making yourself healthy and attractive, then that is offputting. You may think it's confidence, but men will see it as laziness. I must ask, do you date overweight guys? Because unless people get really lucky, they usually marry someone on the same physical caliber as themselves.

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Originally Posted by Gribble [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

How overweight are you?

Being overweight is unhealthy. If you can't control your eating habits what else can't you control? What lead you down that path to begin with? Insecurity, depression, what? Are you just lazy?

There's more to it than shallowness.

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I must say in ways I have to agree with Gribble here. I mean one of my good friends honestly every lady I’ve ever seen him with has been over weight (by a little or a lot). Yeah there are some guys out there that don’t want the slightest thing to do with someone over weight. Guess it’s an ego or a mental thing?

But personally, I go for personality/smarts over anything. Kind of like Ron White said “you can’t fix stupid”.

Really I can’t say any reason why, seeing as I don’t know anything about you, besides what you posted above, but weight isn’t always an issue on that fact of getting dates, maybe you’re just looking in the wrong places.

Have you tried going for black guys?

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Originally Posted by chelsea_dee87 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Why don't men date bigger women?

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Because who will date bigger men if we take away even these prospects from them?

I know plenty of big girls who aren't single.

I think you are still rather young. Many guys your age are still under pressure to conform to the standards set by their peers. I think as they age a bit, you will find guys who will feel emboldened to ask a big girl out. Obviously, though, there will be fewer of them than there would be if you were average sized.

Tbh its unfair to call everyone shallow. Imo there has to be a physical attraction to someone in order for a relationship to work, and generally being overweight isnt attractive, so you have a hard time finding dates.
The ending of Shallow Hal is unrealistic.

To much fat on women is repulsive. I am sorry but men are visual creatures. First and first most we think of the sexual experience we can have with the person, fat women fail.

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Originally Posted by Mishanya [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Because who will date bigger men if we take away even these prospects from them?

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Originally Posted by Charlie Boy II [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Have you tried going for black guys?

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HAHAHAHA oh man, I can't stop laughing.

yeah one of my secret terrors is that my future wife will become obese after I marry her. Something tells me there might be some other males in the same boat.

It's great you seem to have the personality part down, but that's only 50% of it... the other 50% of it is physical attraction. Could you honestly be with someone you're not physically attracted to? Or would you want to be with someone who isn't physically attracted to you?

Like G said, it shows that you don't take care of yourself. That's one of the big things I'm attracted to in a girl. That doesn't mean I only go for skinny girls, I actually prefer some meat on the bones, but as long as they take care of themselves, it's all good.

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Originally Posted by Charlie Boy II [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

yeah one of my secret terrors is that my future wife will become obese after I marry her. Something tells me there might be some other males in the same boat.

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haha I was just thinkin about this the other day!

Oh no no no that cannot happen... she gotta keep it right and keep it tight.

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Originally Posted by Charlie Boy II [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

yeah one of my secret terrors is that my future wife will become obese after I marry her. Something tells me there might be some other males in the same boat.

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I'm in that boat. Some women think that once the finger has the ring on it they can let it ALL go. Bah!

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Originally Posted by Only-virgins [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I'm in that boat. Some women think that once the finger has the ring on it they can let it ALL go. Bah!

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Shit, I think that once the finger has the ring, I can let it all go.

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Originally Posted by Frasbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Shit, I think that once the finger has the ring, I can let it all go.

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Shit, I let it all go before the ring.