So I'm a guy who has just turned 19 years old, and haven't had much success with girls. Although this bothers me somewhat, it is much more complicated then that. I have other friends who are similar to me and don't have much luck, i got another buddy who bounces around and finds himself with a new girl almost every month and hasn't really had a little, although not much success that way. I have had a two situations with friends which i got the 'friend zone' when i talked to them about my feelings in the past 2-3 years, and those feelings dragged along longer then they should've (currently still have for the 2nd of the two).
No big deal right, i see people around me in similar situations down on their luck, i kno i need to be patient. Problem is i feel like i am running low on it and i have one real horrible fear in life. I'm afraid to be alone when I am older. Im just 19 i know, i know, but i can't help but feel this way. Within the past 4 or 5 months i have found myself getting depressed once a month or so, sometimes coming up during some drunken escapade (alcohol is a depressant after all) and also while completely sober.
To make matters worst, i feel horribly guilty when I do feel down because i know so much goes right for me. I mean i have awesome bunch of friends, i do great in school, ive had a great home life since i was young.. basically girls is the one area of my life that isn't good. When i break down i always ask myself how can i ask and expect so much in life?.. with all that I do have and i know sooooooooooo many others out there don't have half of what i do can i wish and hope for more?..
Its not nessesarily that i haven't had much luck with girls i've barely had any! I feel like no one is ever potentially interested in me, i've never been approached in that way, and i've never had a girlfriend (which i kno others haven't as well) just i keep telling myself to look ahead in maybe there will be better luck next yr, well 4-5 years of this has gotten me to loose hope and made my fear of remaining alone to grow on me.
I guess what i need to do is change my attitudes towards this stuff, i know i shouldn't think this way but I can't help it. I opened up to my mom the other week and she suggested i see a psychologist. I was reluctant at first but the other day after another breakdown i accepted but im supposed to see my family physician first in a month so won't be immediate help.
Iunno, if anyone has any advice or been a similar situation maybe some imput would be appreciated.. im just not sure what to believe anymore.