should i try again?

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27-01-08, 01:24 AM
overlooked

should i try again?

hello everybody..
i'm new in this forum, and i join because i have a relationship issue that i don't know who to discuss with.

Here is the problem, i've been in love with this guy since forever, long story short, i made a move first, but it was at the wrong time, it was the wrong way, and the wrong place. Everything turned out bad, he told me to just be friends. i was hurt really bad.

Time passes by,it's been nearly 2 years now, i've realised my mistakes, and i found out that i can't find a better guy than him. I still love him, even though things are rather weird between us now, although we still remain as friends.

I've just watched this movie, few hours ago and i was shocked that it has message that sounds something like this *if u don't give up, u can never fail* so i'm just wondering if it would work for me too...should i try another go in *chasing* him? i've met alot of guys before and after him, but he's always been the one that i trully love.

what should i do? i really want him. but i'm scared of getting hurt. But at the same time i was wondering if he's worth a try, given that everything such as time, ways and place is right. wondering if God ever gonna give me such miracle to make it happen...
27-01-08, 03:51 AM
TheSphinx

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should i try another go in *chasing* him?

Why would you want to chase him?

Most fellows I know will continue to run when being "chased" by a woman.

Could it be that you are allowing the illusion of this man's "perfection" overshadow the good characteristics of men you have been seeing? (Have you placed him at such an unrealistic ideal, that no other man will do?)

He hasn't been into you. Accept that and really try to move on. If you can lose this need for him and learn to enjoy life independent of a relationship with him, you will avoid being hurt again unnecessarily.

~Sphinx
27-01-08, 10:24 AM
vashti

I prefer to let the male be the boy. If he was interested, he would have made a move by now. I would find someone else to pine over.
27-01-08, 10:44 AM
miSSleepy

You can have 56 different places and all the days in the year from black friday to valentine's day, with help from Budha or Allah or the Christian god, but if this guy wasn't interested the first time and still doesn't seem to be, try as you might, it won't work
27-01-08, 09:53 PM
Michael6084

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Originally Posted by overlooked [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

hello everybody..
i'm new in this forum, and i join because i have a relationship issue that i don't know who to discuss with.

Here is the problem, i've been in love with this guy since forever, long story short, i made a move first, but it was at the wrong time, it was the wrong way, and the wrong place. Everything turned out bad, he told me to just be friends. i was hurt really bad.

Time passes by,it's been nearly 2 years now, i've realised my mistakes, and i found out that i can't find a better guy than him. I still love him, even though things are rather weird between us now, although we still remain as friends.

I've just watched this movie, few hours ago and i was shocked that it has message that sounds something like this *if u don't give up, u can never fail* so i'm just wondering if it would work for me too...should i try another go in *chasing* him? i've met alot of guys before and after him, but he's always been the one that i trully love.

what should i do? i really want him. but i'm scared of getting hurt. But at the same time i was wondering if he's worth a try, given that everything such as time, ways and place is right. wondering if God ever gonna give me such miracle to make it happen...

Drop him. You learn from your mistakes so you can make the next relationship you're in even better. With a different guy. You don't really love him. You think you do because he's hard to get. Guys and girls alike think that with whoever they can't have. Immature ones that is.
27-01-08, 11:01 PM
misombra

have you ever heard another famous quote, "if only it were like the movies..."

why not have a goal that involves doing something great, changing the world or something. those are the things you should never give up on.

boys come and go like seasons.
28-01-08, 10:23 AM
overlooked

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Originally Posted by TheSphinx [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Why would you want to chase him?

Most fellows I know will continue to run when being "chased" by a woman.

Could it be that you are allowing the illusion of this man's "perfection" overshadow the good characteristics of men you have been seeing? (Have you placed him at such an unrealistic ideal, that no other man will do?)

He hasn't been into you. Accept that and really try to move on. If you can lose this need for him and learn to enjoy life independent of a relationship with him, you will avoid being hurt again unnecessarily.

~Sphinx

thnx sphinx, in the past years i think i've done well getting over him. i have a job that i totally love, and i wasnt always thinking abt him. i had a life basically. but i was just thinking maybe this time i can give another try,and maybe change my method or something. if u only knew what kinda situation he was at before, maybe u would give me a different opinion.