Relationship getting boring

I love my boyfriend but the relationship is getting boring. We've known each other for a year now but he still has trouble opening up to me. Our conversations mainly consists of us talking about how was our day. When we start talking about more personal things, its basically me talking and him asking me the questions. When I ask him about himself, he says "Don't worry about me" and then changes the topic. He says he is a bad judge of character so I'm guessing he wants to take things slow and get to know me better first before he opens up to me. But I have known him for more than a year now! I want to get to know him more deeply and see the relationship evolving. But now nothing is happening and its starting to get dull. How should I open him up and how do I add excitment into the relationship? I don't want this to end up boring. I don't want him to leave me for a new girl and I don't want to cheat on him.

why don't you tell him how you feel. it might appear that it's boring to you, however, he might actually be not trying that hard to give you the proper attention that you deserve. shit, when a girl is in your state of mind, it's the prime time for someone else to snatch you away.

raverboy

He may not be "opening up" because there isn't anything to tell. Many guys are not as verbose as females. You aren't expecting him to turn into a girl, are you?

I think it is best to accept people as they are. If you want a guy who is more expressive, now is the time to go find one. Trying to change the personality of a guy you are dating never works.

that... or maybe he is just bored with this girl..

raverboy

If you're already bored after only a year, I think you should consider taking a break or seeing other people.

or consider keeping this bf and just having sex with other people.

raverboy

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Originally Posted by lastwish [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Our conversations mainly consists of us talking about how was our day...When I ask him about himself, he says "Don't worry about me" and then changes the topic.

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"Don't worry about me" sounds more like an unwillingness to share rather than a lack of something to share, to me.

Some fellows mistakenly think that they are being alluring by being "mysterious" in holding back personal details.

While this probably is not the case here, I would suggest letting him know you're frustrated in not knowing much about him despite being together for a year.

If you aren't seeing him open up more, move one and find a guy who will.

~Sphinx

Some people also don't tell personal information for fear of being judged. "Out of sight is out of mind".

Apart from that, I also agree with Vash, maybe there is just nothing to tell. (Unless he is definetly avoiding specific questions).

Don't you share any interests? Maybe you're spending too much time together. Maybe instead of sitting him down and interviewing him about his life, why don't you observe him and ask him questions about himself?

It takes 2 people to make a relationship boring, you know.

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Originally Posted by lilwing [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

It takes 2 people to make a relationship boring, you know.

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Oh, I strongly disagree. If you have one non-participant, the other can't participate for him.

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Originally Posted by lastwish [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I love my boyfriend but the relationship is getting boring.

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How old are the two of you?

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Oh, I strongly disagree. If you have one non-participant, the other can't participate for him.

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Yeah, but why one side is non-participant? Because of the other part, maybe?

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Originally Posted by GrkScorp [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

How old are the two of you?

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We're both 18 currently in college right now.

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Originally Posted by boobaa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Yeah, but why one side is non-participant? Because of the other part, maybe?

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Geez...thats what I was thinking. Maybe he just isn't that into me. So I broke up with him for awhile. But now we're on again because we both still have feelings for each other i guess. I can't read minds so I really don't know how much he likes me.

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Oh, I strongly disagree. If you have one non-participant, the other can't participate for him.

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You're describing a personal problem, not a relationship problem. I used to feel the same way about relationships.