New relationship... first fight? I want sex, he doesnt?!
So I am in a very new relationship.. and when I mean very new I mean that we have been dating since the end of December, and when I say dating I mean we have been hanging out and having sex but very recently, like 2 weeks ago we decided to make US official. Ever since we started hanging out in December, we have spent almost ALL of our time together. He says this is the happiest he has been in 5 years, and he always texts/calls and asks me to hang out with him...
Before we even got together, he told me (drunkenly) that he was "falling in love with me". Which he said again on a few occasions, also somewhat intoxicated. Which I never said back, I would always say things like "you're great" or "i adore you" but I dont want to lie and say I love him. But I really really do like him.
So here is my dilemma.. usually we have sex every time we see each other but recently I have noticed that he may not stay hard the entire time during sex or if I am giving him head. It is not always but seems to be getting more frequent, which bothers me because I feel like I am not turning him on.
After a few day haitus (that time of the month) from us having sex, we had sex again yesterday which was normal (great) but then later that night I tried to get him to have sex again (we were both drunk) and he said he was too drunk. Okay? I was kind of annoyed but tried to be understanding aka let him sleep (although we have had sex when we're drunker than that) so then this morning I was being a little pouty but tried not to be because I really wanted to have sex, he started out as if he wanted to have sex with foreplay but then he tells me he has got to go, i know he had to go teach a class but usually he could squeeze in time to be with me.. so I just got up and left.
Now I am not really sure what the deal is, Im afraid that he is upset about something. But I brought it up to him and he swears that he was just from the drinking and that he was hung over and hurried to leave. But that combined with him losing his boner during sex (he says this is because he may of already masterbated that day), Im afraid that he doesnt want me anymore. Which is really bad, especially so early into a relationship!
I almost wonder if he is upset that I didnt say I love'd him back, both last night when he told me he was falling for me, and I didnt say anything, he lost his hard on. And this morning when he said "you make me so happy", I said "well you make me so horny" and it seems like he lost it after that. Could this be? I dont want to lie and say that I am in love with him because I want to get laid! I could see myself falling in love with him, and I have really really strong feelings for him...
I want to be with him, both sexually and in a relationship!
What can I do? Why would he be like this?