Not living up to college-dating expectations
I am learning a lot; not just in class, either.
I've met a strange array of women: in the dorms, from class, and through other friends. I've only dated once since my college career began last Fall. She was really frisky and we sexed it every night. I haven't dated anyone since. I want to date again, I am attracted to women, but I think I am doing something wrong. Not sure what it is, not sure how to observe myself. I don't want to ask my lady friends their opinions, and I don't want to ask my buddies to hook me up; I just want to meet women on my own and date them.
I feel like it is some kind of race, or challenge that I am facing, and I am losing big-time. I feel so pressured because, you know, people say "oh, you're surrounded by women, now's the time to date" and all, I really want to date.
The other thing is that it's rare for me to be attracted to someone. I'm just beginning to understand the concept of beauty; maybe it hits some people earlier, but I've seen all kinds of women, and I'm not seeing any that make my pants get tighter; even if they are the kind that my buddies think are extremely hot.
What causes these kinds of problems?