Loosing My Life & Mind (PLEASE HELP ME)!!

Hello everyone before i continue, i have summed up a huge story, one that has consumed my mind and my life past few months. I have started to do poorly in school and just a lot other bad things b/c of this, the situation isn't my problem its my indecisiveness, so at the end of all of it please tell me.

a) should i ask her out (and how)

b) should i just forget about her (and wats my excuse)


I have known this girl on and off as an acuintance for about 2 years. A couple months ago we started getting really close, she started callin me to hang out, we have a good time together. She became really flirty with me, and we traded some sexual txts. I decided to speak to her about it and when i asked her when she'd like to engage in this behaviour, she said to me "it was was innocent flirting, i see you as a friend" .. i told her its ok we can continue being friends.

AFter this we got even CLOSER, we hung out more alone, and then she got me a very personal gift, a keychain customized with her and mine name with a heart... Janny (L) Mike.... in the process i started seeing another girl who asked me to remove this tag, which i did out of respect. Janny noticed it was gone and she freaked out on me at dinner and left the restaurant.


Essentially, my situation is, Janny told me she sees me as a friend, she continuously un-necessarily uses the word friend friendship a lot with me. yet she shows up where i am and hangs out with me alone, and i never call janny out, shes always calling me.. and the bottom line is i like her A LOT.. and i am loosing my mind.

I am also aware that her last bf who she dated for 2 years, she did not like when she met him but started to like him..

pLease advise!!!!

Thank you all!

tell her to make her damn mind up about you, your the alpha male, the t-rex, you gotts put your foot down on this madness she is causing, and now, not later.

If you like Janny more than the girl you're seeing, then try asking her to be your girlfriend. If she just wants to be friends, then explain to her that friends do not keep heart key chains with their names on it and forget about her.

tell her to make up her mind, then come tell you. until then your off bounds.

and don't let this affect your grades.

Janny needs to make up her mind, and you need to tell her so. Tell her that her behaviour is not conducive to someone that wants to be 'just friends', and that if she's interested in you to just come clean about it (because you're interested in her too). If she continues to deny it, just stop spending time with her, because that's silly immature behaviour.

PS My friend, NO GIRL is worth screwing up your grades in school for. You'll look back on that and kick yourself. Your studies should always be number one, even if you have a gf. Girls come and go....so don't screw up your future over them, it's soooooo not worth it.

Tell her exactly what you need to know. If she still wastes your time after that, she is just a superegoistic emotional bitch player.

thank u for all ur responses so far.. i have a minor development to announce.


this evening we were out.. and we got into one of our many mini fake fites.. and she says this to me.. "honestly sometimes it feels like ur my bf" and to which i didn't even respond and i continued another conversation....

she also gets MAD at me alot.. she tells me how i get under her skin.. and claims not to "Care enuf" to tell me why.. she keeps tellin me things i need to do.. and care about her feelings more.. yet.. she still uses words like.. "my other guy friends" and "as a friend you should"

what do u guys think about this.


Thank you.. u are all helping me a lot!

ooh another thing i forgot...

she totally took birth control pills in front of me.. and i was drinking her coke, and she says to me "give me the 'cock' back" .. even though i think its a harmless slip.. i still duno why she would take her pills in front of me...

and she always asks me who i am txting... and also requested me to put my keychain back on.. since "me and my lil gf are broken up"

it time to call her to make up her mind. what is she thinking about you? is she just planning to be just plainly friends or wad. Anw, no girl shld affect any part of life, especially your grades.