Hi, this is my first post and I just really need to get some stuff off my chest and need some opinions from other people, I'll start off like this I guess:
I'm Alex 17 from Germany, my girlfriend Meli is also 17 and 6months older than me, we have been together for 2years. I am Meli's first big love and serious relationship, she lost her virginity to me (which is important for later on in this post) and she hasn't really had any intimate activities with anyone else. We are planning on marrying in September, with which both of our parents have blessed and agree upon.
The problem is, Meli feels a.. I don't know how to describe it "compulsion" to atleast date and most likely have sexual experiences as well before we settle down and honestly commit ourselves to eachother for the rest of our lives.
(Now it might be silly but also a thought of ours is that later on in our lives we will probably go to swinger clubs together)
But basically, we are moving in together in 2months time in our first own flat just the two of us and, she in a way wants her freedom to gain experiences before we move and then draw a line and stop.
She says that obviously I am allowed to do the exact same.
Thing is that I have a lot more relation- and sexual experience behind me and that is what disturbs her I guess..
Something she also often says is that, it's partially because she feels this compulsion and she is scared, that in 5 or 10 or how many ever years, she'd betray me.
I'm kind of bummed, because I don't know what to do and I honestly think in a way she might regret it but then that's her concern. But I'll always be here to catch her when she falls like.