Quick Journey to friends category
After being single for a few months, I met someone at a business conference. We found out we had alot in common. She invited me to join her and a couple friends the next morning for a run.
During the run, one of the friends said something about her boyfriend, but I did'nt quite catch it, and although part of me said "damn!", I wasnt 100% sure.
Over the next month we saw each other 3 times - once for a swim, once for another run, and once for a work function. After the swim we ended up having dinner, and at the end of the dinner she moved in and kissed me. I was a bit surprised, but I wanted to kiss her too and maybe she could tell. After that kiss (lips for clarification) I was on Cloud 9, because I liked her from the moment I met her.
After the second time we met for a swim I kissed her. She also asked "Will I see you again?". So I invited her early the next week for dinner and a movie on Friday night, but she declined saying she was going out clubbing with friends. She then invited me to take the place of another friend who couldnt make it to a company event. The drive getting there was pretty long, and she mentioned something about her having "issues" but I didnt ask any questions.
I drove her home after the event. She opened the door of my car to get out, but then she turned to me. It was the third kiss, but she cut it short, saying "I should go."
The next day I mentioned I was going swimming if she was interested in joining me (Sunday). I never got a response. Wednesday came around and I mentioned I was taking my dog for a walk by the beach after work (we live pretty close) if she wanted to meet my dog.
She texed me saying she was out of town in L.A, that she would like to be friends if possible, that she didnt want to give anyone any false hopes, and that she just wanted to be honest. I first tried calling but didnt leave a message. So I texed back saying no worries, and have fun in LA.
The text was Wed, and now its Sun and I'm still really choked up about the whole thing. The kisses DID give me hope. I actually had hope with her when I first saw her and met her at the conference.
There are things going through my mind, like:
1. Maybe its all her. Her issues. Maybe a boyfriend.
2. Maybe she was feeling it could escalate into a relationship and had to put on the brakes... but why?? She kissed me and I thought she was interested.
3. Maybe she wanted a fling and thought I was getting too heavy? Did I show romantic interest instead of casual-sex only interest?
$. Did she lose interest at some point? Was there a lack of chemistry - even after a just a few kisses?
Some people have told me its not over. But being placed as a friend feels like its over. It sucks - I feel like I dont have enough game to have kept it going.
What do you think I should do now? And why do you think she put me in the friends category?
