Torn between boyfriend and another man
Obviously I'm not the first person this has heppened to but here's my story, as quickly as I can make it.
I'm 25, been with my boyfriend for just over a year. At first we kind of just wandered upon eachothers path without any lust or painful admiration for one another. It just kind of .. happened. No real butterfly in the belly type of thing.
Things progress slowly, I find that he has a hard time willing to compromise. I pursue the subject of moving in, he finds many reasons not to.
I recently find myself less and less interested sexually. I like his comfort, his friendship and we enjoy spending much of our time together.
Then I meet the 'other man' Who I actually knew long ago in high school. Instantly those butterflies almost fill my entire body. I find myself wanting to talk to him all the time, thinking about him, missing him. Things 'progress' ... I find myself in his presence when I shouldn't be. I now begin to tell my boyfriend that I'm with friends when I'm with 'other man'
Other man is pretty charming, if not somewhat goofy and slighly less mature than I would normally go for. I can't help but be painfully attracted to him whenever I see him. I become really quite pathetic around him.
I know in my mind, that it would be stupid to leave the comfort and stability of my long term relationship for the unknown appeal of a practical stranger. But I feel that if you really love someone, you wouldn't begin lying to them, or avoiding them and most of all having uncontrolled thoughts about another person. I barely even SEE said 'other guy' and I still can't help myself.
I feel like a horrible person. And any advice is crucial for me. Please help! Thanks!
Norma Jean.