what do i ay , long story, right i was friends with a girl just friends, then i met J, J was everything i was missing in my life, she was and still is perfect, we fell for each other, big time, she moved in, and then it started, i told my friend all about J and us =moving in together, and then my friend started acting very funny, she started texting and calling me all the time, saying she wanted to be with me, i had never given her any indication i wanted a relationship with her,
then i asked J to marry me and she said yes, i was so happy. i told this so called friend and she immeadiately started threatening to hurt both me and J physically, i told her to leave us aone and she became more persistant, more threatening, she started saying that she would tell J we were having an affair, then i became scared, i would never cheat on J, i couldnt shes the world to me, but by this point i had made the mistake of not telling J what was happening, and i was terrified if i did this woman would then tell her a pack of lies and it would be over between us, and thats where i went wong, i didnt tell J becasue i thought i could deal with it and it would just go away, i was so wrong, it just went on and on, more and more texts and calls every day, she would not stop, I still kept it from J becasue this friend was starting to threaten her more and more, if i didnt answer she would hurt J and me, if i didnt answer she was going to desrtroy my life. i was terrified, i had been in a violently abusive relationship before and i think thats why i was being so easily controlled by this woman, I didnt know what to do, i just wanted her to leave me and J alone to be happy,
i became more desperate for it to stop, i tried everything to stop it, i even went to see this so called friend., to ask her to stop, she didnt,
then yes J found a text, we talked and i eventually told her everything, i told her how scared i was of loosing her, told her what had happened, even the meeting, nothing ever happened between me and this other woman, J even had her number to call or text, and she did, they exchanged texts, i dont know what was said in them, but obviously enough. J and I married in aug, this year about two weeks ago today, its all i ever wanted, but now she says it means nothing, and she does not want me in her life, i dont blame her for feeling this way, i know i should have told her what was happenoing, i know its my fault, but she is pregnant, and says thats the only reason that she married me, so she was not alone with a baby, this is tearing me apart, as i do love J so much, but she does not believe when i say nothing ever happened, now i dont know what to do or where to turn, i have cut myself off from all my friends, and i have no one to talk to. me and juli are still together but there is nothing between us, no contact physically, i dont mean sex, just those little touches and kisses, that say your in love, i dont blame her but im very sensitive, bad thing obviously and i wish i wasnt. did i do the wrong this not telling her earlier, i know i did, but i was only trying to protect us. has anyone else had a similar experience? help me please.
