I'm trying to get over a girl. Not just a girl, but someone I've loved and had history with for the last 3 years.
I stumbled upon this forum because I just really need someone to talk to. I need to vent.
Well where to start, that's always the hardest part.
So for the last 3 years, We had the typical good times and bad relationship. Unfortunately, I did start seeing someone else last summer in a very stupid move I made at a Tool concert. It was a very strange circumstance, and one that wouldn't be repeated for anyone in one lifetime. I didn't cheat on her though, I told her everything that was going on (and maybe told her a little too much). Looking back I think I told her so much about what I was doing with another girl because I really knew me and her (my ex at this point) would be together and that she was the one I wanted to keep. It only lasted a week and I was right back in her arms.
See what you have to realize here is that me and her have broken up a few times in those 3 years. Silly stupid stuff, but we'd always end up together again.
So once again on this occasion, she forgave me and we continued our relationship.
Well, the more I stay with this girl the more I don't want anyone else. I see her getting more beautiful every day. I love her more every day.
That's where the kicker comes in. Last Thursday night she left. She didnt call, she didnt contact me, nothing at all. And there was nothing to lead me to have a reason that she would want to leave me. Well, I went insane. I tried calling her non-stop, messaging her, "what's going on!!??"
Finally on Monday, she answers her phone. She acts like nothing is happening. "Where are you! Why are you ignoring me! I miss you! Come home!". She then says "I have to go" and hangs up.
Fast forward to today.
I come to find out shes been seeing someone. "A few times" she says. I ask where she's been staying and she tells me her friends house. "Have you slept with him?", "no, just kissing".
I ask her what's going on, what about us, what are you going to do, are we over? I get the "I need time".
Thing is, I hate the "time" scenario because I'm sitting here hoping and expecting her to come back and just waiting..
See, because it's not "we're over", it's not "I want someone else", it's "I don't know I'm confused".
How do you handle this with someone who you seriously are considering marrying? Someone who has meant the world to you, and can't see yourself living without? :upset:
I can't talk to her, she's still spending time with this other guy.
I think the best thing to do is to assume it's over for good and not wait for her to come back.
What do you guys think?
I just don't want anyone else......
