What can I do to save this? Or should I even bother?

I will try to make this detailed but to the point so I can hopefully get some insight here. I am a 26 year old male. I am looking for more then just dating now a days and am trying to find that special someone.

I recently met a girl and we started dating for a few months. We then decided to make it official. Needless to say things got off to a rocky start. She apparently never really opened up to me and I discovered some things that where hurting her or she was concerned about.

1. My smoking
2. The lack of calling her on the phone (altho we talk everyday online)

I asked her if anything else was bothering her about me so I could be sure I was not wasting my time and if I felt it wasn't to much to ask I would stop such said things.

We have been officially BF/GF for about 3 months now. As soon as I found out she has a problem with my smoking (her mother died from smoking) I stopped after that last pack. Currently I am on the patch and it's going well. I don't really think about smoking often anymore because I really think this girl is worth it.

I didn't even realize me not calling her every now and then concerned her so that was an easy fix. Well everything has been going great the past few months once those things where settled.

I've never sent anyone flowers before but I decided to send her flowers randomly for a big presentation she had for work along with a box of nice chocolates. I've never really been much of the romantic type but this girl really brings it out of me and I enjoy doing it for her. I love to see her happy it makes me feel great.

Now onto what happened last night.

My GF has a friend and to summarize her friend hates me and tries everything she can to try and screw things up between us. I received a txt message from my GF last night that said "We need to break up because I want to have sex with lots of sluts" I was really hurt and angered by this message that came out of the blue. Well it turns out my GF and her Friend thought it would be funny and sent it as a joke. The damage already had been done at this point and I was pretty sad about the whole thing.

Well a few hours later I get another txt that said "I have a surprised for you" I had no idea what she had planned but assumed it would happen today because we planned on hanging out today. Well it's getting late at this point and I decide to go to bed to settle my nerves. It looks like everything is going to be ok.

RING RING RING. My phone goes off and it's my ex gf I had before my current GF. I haven't heard from my ex in almost a year and we only dated a few months it never really was that serious. Well I am sitting here talking in my bed (naked because that's how I sleep). All the sudden my bed room door opens and I couldn't see who it was. As they got closer I realized it was my GF. I told my ex I had to go and hung the phone up. My GF asked who I was talking to I told her I was talking to my Ex GF because I had nothing to hide. My GF didn't really have much of a reaction and said she was just stopping by to give me a hug. Well she gave me a hug and a pretty weird one then left. I called my Ex back because she was telling me all sorts of new things in her life and I get another txt message from my GF that says she is outside and really mad.

So once again I get off the phone with the ex and rush out there. She explains to me that she suspects I am cheating because it's really weird I was laying in bed talking to my ex GF on phone. I tried to explain how much I care about her and I'd never think of cheating on her. If I had those kinds of thoughts I told her I would break it off because that's just not right.

Well she eventually calmed down and left. After this happened I decided it would be a dumb idea to call the ex back so I didn't bother. I talked to my girl friend some more about the whole situation on the phone some more that night.

What I gather is she has been screwed with in the past and is assuming that I will do the same to her. She doesn't want to get hurt.

The problem is I'm 100% honest with her. I have zero intention of ever doing anything with anyone else she is the world to me but she won't believe me. I fear that this will always be at the back of her mind and she will hold things back from me, think I am cheating on her (I really don't have any other friends that are girls besides my current GF). On top of all that I have her friend which is a total jerk I never did anything to her but she makes it her job to make things hard for me.

I hope she realizes what should could possibly be missing from having these assumptions about our relationship and letting her friend screw with our relationship.

What should I do? What are my options? Can I ever get past the past relationship problems she had and how she is injecting those problems as if they are happening in her current one even if they aren't?


Is this a battle I can only lose? Should I cut my losses and find someone else? I really don't want to I'm really in love with this girl and have never felt like this about someone before. In the past I would just let them go if something like this happened.

I just fear that I will be the one that gets walked on chewed up and spit out.