Hi, I'm... er... ver-VERY mixed up right now...

Hi I'm new to this forum and after advice...
Just hear me out here :D

I'm currently studying A-Levels at my 6th form college and I like this lass.
I've vagueley known her since september... thats about 8 months, I know her a bit better now as we talk during the lessons we're next to each other.

However we're all off on study leave now to revise and I'm thinking of her 24/7... which is sorta bad considering I'm revising...

I had a plan to ask her out at a BBQ i've organised for next saturday.. however I've just found out she's going to some bloody festival so that plan's down the shitter :annoyed: , a couple of hours ago I was in a right state, consumed by all sorts of feelings 'cos of that...

At the moment I've been using the help of a mutual friend to get her to go to the BBQ until I found out she can't go, handily our mutual friend is having a B-day party soon, or hopefully ;)

What I'm wondering is what is the next move for me to make, I'm constantly worrying about rejection and what to say... hopefully you lot can help :D

Believe me I know how it feels to have someone on your mind 24/7, every time your sat there alone or got one second to think about them, they're there in your head. It's horrible. I felt this way and really cared about this guy and he took me for a ride, completely messing with my feelings. He led me on believeing that something was going to happen between us- and guess what!?! He told me the other day he's getting married!! What a smack in the mouth that was.

All I can suggest is to let her know that you like her, but don't give all your feeling straight away. After time when you've built up a good friendship, tell her how you feel. Sometimes girls are too shy to make the first move on a guy, so you make the move. If she doesn't feel the same way, you still won't be rejected for the fact that you have a good friendship to fall back on.

Hope that helps

Why don't you just ask her out straight. Everybody is scared of rejection. Unless they seriously don't give a shit about it then I don't see why they're even askin' em out.. Maybe just to sleep with em I don't know.. But... Yeah.

well the way i see it, theres no time in the world to be scared of rejection, and if im being myself and a female was to reject me- thats her loss cause im dope as ****, look at it logically though, now u have 2 choices, u persue it, see what happens, possibly get rejected- Or you let the fear consume you and dont do anything, 10years from now, which do you think you could live with more? avoiding a rejection, and always wondering if maybe something couldve worked out..or getting rejected ?

just to go back to my first statement, there is no time to be worried about rejection in this world..just go for it, if she isnt interested- its not the end of the world, but it might suck for a while

thanks for the help :D

how should I go about telling her my feelings without appearing too direct and over desperate or something, beacuse I like the idea of building a strong friendship first, its just how to get one going properly without letting her know my full intentions or something...