I am in a relationship with someone since almost 5 years. We got together when he was 18. Before our relationship became serious I got to know another man, who is from U.S. (I am from Europe) and who is as well famous, which made an acquaintance with him even more attractive for me.
I fell in love with that other man and decided to kind of 'break up' the relationship I had with my current boyfriend. (our relationship wasn't a serious one at that point though).
I realized later that there is no future with that American man and I started to redevelop feelings for my boyfriend. So we got together again and our relationship was serious from that point on.
After about a year though my bf broke up with me because he felt that he did not really have a life as a single and because he just wanted to have fun at that point. This break only lasted for 2 weeks because he realized that I am more important to him than partying and having fun with girls.
Since that getting together again we were together for 4 more years. During these years I still met that American though whenever he was in Europe. I even made short trips to other countries near me to see him. I explained to my boyfriend that I am doing this because I am honored that a famous person like him even wants to see me and has some sort of friendship with me. And that it is only friendship that we have and that nothing sexual is going on (the other man also was in a relationship and marriage by the way whenever he saw me).
I won't tell here if it really was only friendship, because I want to see if any man can possible believe such a thing.
Anyways, by boyfriend said that he believes me and even though he did not like the idea very much he 'allowed' me to visit him. He also said if he did not allow it I'd probably still do it or try to get him to allow it. He also knew that I was writing emails with that man, but he never asked me to give him the password to my account - even though I knew his passwords because I was suspicious since he broke up with me once just for having fun.
Ok so the current situation is: I visited that man in U.S a while ago and told my bf a reason that does not particularely prove that I visit because I have feelings for that man. It turned out that I also cannot prove to him now that that was the reason I visited.
Anyways, two days ago I found an email in his mailbox, that he wrote while I was in U.S., where he writes to an escort that he wants to meet her to have fun with her, and that it would be the first time for him, because he never did that before.
I asked him about this and in the end he told me that he did never meet her but he was just jealous that I just made a big trip to see another man and wanted to pay me back. But he did not meet her in the end. He said he repented he sent the mail right after he did it.
What makes me suspicious though is that he was registered at a forum long before my trip, that is about 'testing whores'. He registered at a time while I haven't seen that other man for a year at least. He told me that it was just dumb curiosity and nothing more. And that he would actually never cheat on my with a whore.
My theory is that either it is the truth that he just wanted to pay me back because deep inside he was hurt I always met that other man, but too proud to admit in front of me.
Or he was a cheater all the time (remember he is quite young and did not have too many women in his life, even quit our relationship for that reason once). Maybe because he knew he was cheating he said that he does not mind if I meet that other man, just to soothe his conscience.
Last thing I want to say is that I think we always had a great relationship (also sexually), we almost never fight, and if so, it is just stupid reasons, and we tell each other how much we love each other all the time.
So what do you all think? Did he cheat or not?
Did he do it as a revenge?
Did he just use the chance of me being away for a week to do something he wanted long before?
Would you believe your girlfriend if she told you she just a a friendship with another man she meets?
