myspace sucks!

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09-01-09, 11:46 AM
arpilicious

myspace sucks!

ok Guys, So. as i wrote on another post my bf and i have been together 6 years, have an almost 4 year old and all that.
This happened a while ago but i wanted to find out what the reasoning behind it is.
My bf and i were going through a rough patch, not really talking to each other and not really getting along. one night i got home from work or whereever and he was on the phone with some girl. he lied to me about who it was then told me he wanted to break up. anywy we ended up getting back together like a day and a half later and were extremely happy for a while.
one day he fell asleep on the couch with his myspace stuff still open and i snooped.
i found a message from him to a girl on myspace that said " ok i broke up with her for good now why aren't you online?"
i confronted him about this and he got pissed and told me to stay out of his business and i left and went to a friends house.
later on that night we talked through our mutual friend and she sort of sorted everything out for us and i came home even though i was still really bothered by it.
i remember standing on the balcony with him after our friend had gone back inside and his eyes had this look that i can only say was a mix of passion, desire and hunger. after that we made up.

I made him get rid of her on his myspace stuff and he did and got rid of everyone i don't know and set his profile to private so nobody knew can see it. he told me he never cheated on me with her, and i trust him.

anyway i hurt for about 2 months after that. i cried myself to sleep for about a month then one day (new years day) i decided that i was going to be done feeling bad about it and move on.

i've forgiven but i haven't forgot and i'm pretty sly about dropping it in conversation in a slightly accusing but humourous tone.
i figure if we can joke about it and joke about infidelity (like hey your boyfriend called when a telemarketer calls) it's not happening in real life.

anyway i just wanted to know what the hell that was. was he bored, annoyed, confused what?! please answer
09-01-09, 11:53 AM
Mish

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Originally Posted by arpilicious [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

i've forgiven but i haven't forgot and i'm pretty sly about dropping it in conversation in a slightly accusing but humourous tone.
i figure if we can joke about it and joke about infidelity (like hey your boyfriend called when a telemarketer calls) it's not happening in real life.

I think that if you want to move on a genuine forgiveness on your part will be required. Don't sly drop it in conversation, that would be passive aggressive.

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anyway i just wanted to know what the hell that was. was he bored, annoyed, confused what?! please answer

I don't know, but it sounded malicious. Anyway, you've taken him back since then and it's all history. A true forgiveness means give yourself a peace of mind and forget about it. If you can't then separate from him and find someone else.
09-01-09, 12:13 PM
arpilicious

i've forgiven him but i just can't seem to forget.
i've forgiven him because ever since that has happened he's done everything right. he's been a good guy and EARNED my trust back.
i'll forget about it some day
09-01-09, 12:22 PM
Only-virgins

Um...so why does myspace suck again?
09-01-09, 12:46 PM
Lite

Forgive and forget is pretty stupid.

Look, it's fine to forgive someone but it's not unreasonable to ask for access to occasionally check in on his behavior.
09-01-09, 07:29 PM
LadieNisha4u2nv

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Originally Posted by Only-virgins [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Um...so why does myspace suck again?

Thats what Im trying to understand. I thought this was a rant about Myspace.
09-01-09, 08:08 PM
Lipp

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ok i broke up with her for good now why aren't you online?

I still can't quite see how this connects to cheating. Why could it not just be a friend who he's been discussing his issues with?

But yeah, Myspace sucks. I can actually stand facebook nowadays, as long as its used casually rather than as a new method of "talking" to people altogether.
10-01-09, 01:22 AM
arpilicious

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Originally Posted by Lite [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Forgive and forget is pretty stupid.

Look, it's fine to forgive someone but it's not unreasonable to ask for access to occasionally check in on his behavior.

lol. i like that. i don't check up on him. he hasn't given me a reason too since then.
i think it's equally funny how nobody answered my question. everybody keeps trying to make me feel better instead of answering my question.

my question was: why did he do this? was it because of confusion or the feeling that unhappiness or what? all of you think for yourselfs why would do do something like that and please let me know!
10-01-09, 01:24 AM
arpilicious

i never really thought about the friend aspect.
do you believe in womens intuition? well mine told me that something was going on. and it stopped after i made it stop and i haven't gotten that feeling since
10-01-09, 07:17 AM
TheTooya

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Originally Posted by Only-virgins [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Um...so why does myspace suck again?

Myspace sucks on general principle. She was just posting that title to let us all know shes a sane human being.
10-01-09, 07:30 AM
Lite

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Originally Posted by arpilicious [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

why did he do this? was it because of confusion or the feeling that unhappiness or what? all of you think for yourselfs why would do do something like that and please let me know!

Why don't you ask him why? Maybe he was angry at you, maybe he just found someone randomly, maybe he was secretly going to break up w/ you for her and wanted to keep you as a backup. Maybe he's an idiot and doesn't appreciate what he has. Maybe you're ****ing psycho and he's trying to run the hell away from you.

We don't know him, so we really cannot answer as to his motivations.