What to make of wife's online activity.

Wife and I have been married 4 years. When we hooked up we both really liked sex. Wife has lots of insecurities around my ex-wife who left me.

My wife just had twins via c-section. So during last month of her pregnancy we could no longer engage in sex and she seemed distant. I noticed, however, that she started visiting porn sites including animal porn sites during this time.

after our twins were born, we had two nights of intercourse but she complained of burning sensation both times. Her online activity still shows frequent visits to same two porn sites.

All visits are done when no one is home. She still says she loves me from time to time but all intimacy seems gone. She was always pursuing sex but has stopped.

Twins are two months old now.

My question is... Why does my wife feel she has to visit porn sites secretly? If she is masturbating, why not include me? She use to.

Do I have anything to be worried about?

Unless you live next door to a farm, I'd say you don't have to worry too much.

Her hormones are all whacked out. She'll normalize eventually. Dude, it's only been two months. In the meantime, visit whatever porn sites turn YOU on, try to maintain your own equilibrium, and try to foster a close emotional bond with her That's what's going to bring her back to bed with you.

Only two months? How long does this take? I think you're off base... I'm fine if the hormones are out of whack, but this does not explain why she enjoys looking at porn without me or engage in sexual play without me. Moreover, why is she keeping it secret. We use to view porn together; just not the animal variety.

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Unless you live next door to a farm

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lol you can't be serious.

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Originally Posted by confused1 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Only two months? How long does this take? I think you're off base... I'm fine if the hormones are out of whack, but this does not explain why she enjoys looking at porn without me or engage in sexual play without me. Moreover, why is she keeping it secret. We use to view porn together; just not the animal variety.

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I've given birth before. Have you? Having a disinterest in sex with you for a while is nature's way of ensuring that she gives her attention to the kids. Here's a little hint: It's not just her hormones that are all askew. It's her self-image, etc. She already has insecurities and believe me, having her body taken over by babies for 9.5 months and coming to terms with the fact that it's permanently changed isn't going to help.

Dude, I have no idea why she's looking at farm porn. That's just plain weird to me. Maybe that's why she's keeping it to herself.

Way off base?

Hahahaha!

Perhaps she's just curious & its nothing sexual for her? Why don't you just ask her about it but don't make a big deal out of it. Treat it as funny even, and see what she says. Forward her the joke about the general doing the camel in Iraq.