Why is he being like this?

There is a man who I know that everyone used to say flirted with me, he was always so friendly and nice with me.

The last 2 times i have seen him he has been the complete oposite. He can't make eye contact, when he does look at me he looks at me up and down from my shoulders to my feet, but not smiling, with an odd look on his face, miserable:lol: makes me feel like c**p, I am a nicely dressed lady (in my 30s), not tarty or anything, just smart casual, I dont know why he would do this.

I haven't seen this man to offend him or anything, why would he suddenly be like this with me? People say he fancies me, knows he can't have me so this is why he is suddenly being VERY off with me, so different from his usual, happy, flirty self. It has also uspet me an awful lot because I really do have strong feelings for him:love:

What do you think of the way he is behaving? he just can' t make eye contact with me, or make conversation, total oposite to what he is usually like with me. I work with him occasionally but we also have a professional relationship.

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Originally Posted by Emsy [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

There is a man who I know that everyone used to say flirted with me, he was always so friendly and nice with me.

The last 2 times i have seen him he has been the complete oposite. He can't make eye contact, when he does look at me he looks at me up and down from my shoulders to my feet, but not smiling, with an odd look on his face, miserable:lol: makes me feel like c**p, I am a nicely dressed lady (in my 30s), not tarty or anything, just smart casual, I dont know why he would do this.

I haven't seen this man to offend him or anything, why would he suddenly be like this with me? People say he fancies me, knows he can't have me so this is why he is suddenly being VERY off with me, so different from his usual, happy, flirty self. It has also uspet me an awful lot because I really do have strong feelings for him:love:

What do you think of the way he is behaving? he just can' t make eye contact with me, or make conversation, total oposite to what he is usually like with me. I work with him occasionally but we also have a professional relationship.

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Why can't he have you?

We are both married, its a difficult one.

I don't for one minute think he likes me, its my family & friends who think that.

I just don't know why he would suddenly go from always being nice and chatty with me (some would say flirty) then being like this and looking me up and down like that?

Like You Stated, He Is Married And It Could Be That Wife Has Found Out About His Flirtish Ways, So He Could Have Bean Warned About It.

Or It Could Be That He Is The Type Of Man, Which Exspects For You T Have Given Yourself To Him By Now, But You Did Not So, His Ego Can Be A Little Bruised.
In This Case, This Man Is Showing You What He Wants Only, So Please Do Not Make The Mistake By Given Him His Way, Because You Will Be More Hurt Than You Are Now.

It Could Have Bean Just Flirting And Nothing Else.

In English (as in every other language I know of) we don't capitalize the first letter of every word.

So why would he be being off all of a sudden when he is usually so nice to me? why would he look me up and down like that?

Try Typing In Capital Letters And You Will See The Results Yourself

that is something that you hav to ask him personally, at least it would take away any assumptions.
try it

Emsy, maybe he realized that his behavior was flirty and inappropriate and he's trying to curb it. Maybe he had a wild sex dream about you and he feels guilty.

What does it matter? You're both married... so the affections (or lack of affections) from another man really shouldn't matter... right?

Cause if they do... then it's time reevaluate how much your marriage really means to you.

I have feelings for this other man, I would never leave my husband but I cannot help how I feel for this other person.

^^^ Control your actions and avoid this man. He seems to try to control his.

I do and will continue to do so. Just wish I could turn my feelings off.

It takes 21 days to form a new habit. Stop getting pleasure from thinking about him (his new behavior patterns should help with this) and you'll find yourself in a much better place, emotionally.

There's nothing wrong with having a crush. There's something wrong with feeding it, though, and you've been as guilty of this as he has. Stop it.

I guess you are right, I am just not sure if he ever did like me. So strange why he is now being like this though.