Boyfriend's old friend..am I being really insecure?
Sorry in advance for this really long post..
To summarize, my boyfriend's (we've been dating for 8 months) old friend came to visit from another country and she's going to be staying a while. She isn't staying in his house, but they do see each other occasionally. I haven't met her, and I don't think I will be (my boyfriend and I are in a LDR you see..) anytime soon. My boyfriend is three years younger than me, btw, and they are both the same age.
What troubles me is when I visit his facebook, she leaves these comments on his wall along the lines of, "i fight you because you're EVIL!!" and smiley faces and stuff..anyway, from what he told me he makes fun of her height whenever he sees her, and they would fight..playfully of course. To me, it seemed like she was flirting with him and it bothered me..a lot.
Now before anyone says to talk to him about this, I did. I asked him who she was, he told me about her. She has a boyfriend who lives in her country and she was an old friend of his. I told him I was getting concerned about her facebook comments because in some of her comments, it indicated that she was over at his house. I proceeded to tell him that I was afraid he would cheat on me or leave me because it seemed like they were getting too close. He informed me again that she already had a boyfriend and that he would never do such a thing, which didn't help much. Still worried, he told me it was pointless and trivial to think that he would cheat on or leave me and that I was "old enough to know this." I told him I had a history of being cheated on with previous boyfriends, and he understood and assured me that he wouldn't do that to me.
I try to tell myself to trust him on this, and that he would never do this. It's difficult for me because I am his first girlfriend ever, so he doesn't have any history of past relationships like I do. She still leaves comments on his facebook that concerns me because she's at his house.
Am I just being a really insecure twat? Should I trust his word?
He has more female friends, btw, and I don't mind them. This is the only female friend I had a problem with because of her comments.
Any feedback or advice is very well appreciated! I'm slowly losing my trust in him and it saddens me. He tells me he cares about me and loves me very much, but this girl is just keeping me from believing him.
