will we ever get back together?
I met this girl just over a year ago (Jan2008) at a cousins party. She’s actually my cousin’s best friend. We hit it off pretty well and we started dating.
Things had been going really well. I’ve never dated someone like her before – she was just perfect in every way. It didn’t take long for me to realise she was the one for me. I knew that one day I would marry her.
We are both religious and believe in no sex until marriage. We don’t live together. I must say she hasn’t been as affectionate (especially in public) as other girls I had dated. I asked my cousin (her best friend) about this and she said she has never been a particularly affectionate person towards her previous boyfriends. I just lived with this assuming this is the way she was. She was the first religious girl I had dated and I thought it was because of this.
In December she went away to Europe for a month – she had planned to tour Europe during her summer break (she's a school teacher) even before she met me. I was initially going with her but due to buying a house couldn’t afford both. She ended up going with her cousin and they visited her brother who lives there and did a tour together.
Every time I spoke to her while she was away she seemed so in love. She arrives back the day before our 1st anniversary which was about 6 weeks ago. Everything still seemed good. Then the next night when I rock up to take her out to dinner she has a ‘talk’ with me.
She suddenly tells me I’m not ‘the one’ for her and that during her time away she has learned to live without me! She’s been in relationships since she was 18 and hasn’t had a break. She’s 24 and I’m 27. She said she doesn’t want to see anyone now – just be single. She said that her love for me had faded over the last couple of months.
I was absolutely devastated. I had a chat with her a week later trying to convince her to change her mind. Yes I know it was a big mistake to say that to her.
I thought id give her a break and haven’t contacted her since. Except a sms 2 weeks ago to say hi and thanks for the things she returned to me through my cousin.
Things had been so good between us. I thought she was perfect for me and I assumed it was the same for her. Neither of us had done anything wrong, hadn’t cheated etc. I treated her so well, sacrificed so much for her. I don’t think I was ever boring or predictable. And then she leaves me – I don’t get it.
It was clear I was a bit more into her. I was always buying things for her, complimenting her, changing my plans for her (I do shift work - Im a cop), miss out on seeing my friends a lot of the time just to be with her… I got some in return from her, but not as much.
I’ve got over being dumped, but I still think I will never find another girl like her. I still love her despite what she has done to me.
I’m still friends with her on facebook. All I see is photos of her and her female friends going out. I know she’s not seeing anyone right now.
Is there a chance that she just needed a break and may want to get back together? I don’t know if I should contact her?
