She says she doesn't feel like she has an opinion.

My Girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and had been friends for a couple of years. Our last 3 fights have been pretty huge. She tells me today she needs alone time because; "Our relationship is great but I feel like I don't have my own opinions. I feel like my opinions are yours."

I'm 25 and have been in a few relationships. I thought I had heard every variation of "I need space" but this one eludes me. If a woman says "I need space" it means she doubts the relationship and 9 out of 10 times there is another guy and usually she is cheating but this one is confusing as hell. What does she mean she doesn't feel like she has her own opinions? When I ask her she says "its to hard to explain."

Sounds like a sugar coated version of "I need space."

Doesn't like a lack of faithfulness response, but rather doubts about the future of the relationship.

Yeah thats what I get. A few months ago she switched to a generic birth control and now when it gets close to THAT week she goes absolutely insane and says things i know she doesn't mean and its getting worse but she wont admit thats the problem. Instead she just says:
"Our relationship is great but I feel like I don't have my own opinions. I feel like my opinions are yours."

Ouch.

It means that she thinks you are too controlling and domineering and she needs some room to breath.

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Originally Posted by Mishanya [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Ouch.

It means that she thinks you are too controlling and domineering and she needs some room to breath.

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That's funny because thats how I often feel about her...

Sounds like a healthy relationship then. Hahah.

I agree that she has doubts about the future of the relationship. She probably doesn't want to morph into "your second half" so much that she's lost herself if she's ever with someone else.

I think it's a breakup preparatory statement. A variation of "It's not you, it's me."

Carl.

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Originally Posted by carl1222 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I think it's a breakup preparatory statement. A variation of "It's not you, it's me."

Carl.

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Except in this case she is saying "It's you, not me..."

How Normal is this? I mean my last girlfriend said similar things but frankly she didn't have much of a life. Her life was me and it got old after a while.

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Originally Posted by Pectabyte [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

How Normal is this? I mean my last girlfriend said similar things but frankly she didn't have much of a life. Her life was me and it got old after a while.

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Sounds immature. Ask her, "how do you really feel?" and if she gives you that bullshit again then she is too immature to tell you the real reason she is being wacky in the first place. Trust and communication are a must in a healthy relationship and she sounds too immature to understand that.
Women are scandalous and they say a lot of shit they don't understand themselves. She probably doesn't even know what she was trying to say, but she is definitely about to end it.

Sounds like you choose girls you can manipulate in this regard.

Perhaps you should next try a girl with more of "a life" than you have.

If that idea doesn't scare you, that is.

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Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Sounds like you choose girls you can manipulate in this regard.

Perhaps you should next try a girl with more of "a life" than you have.

If that idea doesn't scare you, that is.

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Girls I can manipulate? To do what?

Why would a girl with more of a life scare me? Thats what I thought I was getting with her...