How much of a handicap is being an Asian male?
This may sound silly...I don't blame my 'race' or anything, I have other problems...
I'm a 23 year old fella whose never had a g/f or r/s before. I'm not bad looking, just thin and shy.
I feel most gals aren't into me right now, regardless of ethnicity...which I sort of understand, in today's shallow world. But if I buffed up, was confident etc, how much would my chances REALLY improve? Not to sound un-PC, but I don't look like a typical 'chink' - slanty eyes.etc.
Anyway, I'm actually really pretty race-blind. I wish it weren't an issue but reading stuff on the net it seems to be...I know there are a lot of girls out there who don't care, but sometimes we can pretend people are less race conscious than they really are. I don't even believe in races; they are concentrations of genes, but distinct groups.
I myself don't care what ethnicity a girl is. To be honest, I guess, I've been conditioned to find 'Western' beauty more appealing so I prefer that...actually the main reason I don't find Asian women as attractive is their personality, they are too hard to approach, shy.etc. And many of them are kind of nerdy and pale looking...maybe I'm sounding racist, and am somewhat of a hypocrite (I blame social conditioning haha, my sisters are the same)...nah, many of them are beautiful too, just as many Caucasian girls aren't, but to be perfectly honest I have these preferences I can't really change... Indeed I'm sort of picky with most girls in general tbh, but more on personality than looks...Anyway...
I live in Australia and am Aussie, so I don't think about it much, but I'm curious how the situation is in general in Western countries.
Thanks for input/advice.etc. :D