So basically this girl and I have been off and on for 4 years. We really love each other, and are best friends, but when it came to dating we tended to fight a lot. The fighting was mainly due to me, changing as an individual from who I once was.. I began going out a lot, ignoring her and her cries for what I was doing wrong. We began to fight so much over this that I couldn't take it and someone had to break it off, so it was me. This happened a couple times, but I never improved with my drinking & going out status. That's a really short version of our ride, but know that at 1 time we were very happy together and we hated being away from one another.
Now, just recently, after we have been apart for a good 2 months now, she started dating one of her friends.. someone who would talk her through the bad times with me. Of course, I wanted her back.. (we have said many times that we want to marry one another). Again, I'm keeping this as short as possible, but I have done this a few times before and failed (I still didn't give up the drinking and going out, even though I said I would change).
So, this time.. She has a really hard time believing me. That, and her family knows my ways, so they are against me as well. The thing is, I have %100 given up my past, but it's like cry wolf now. She has a good thing with this new guy, and she's too afraid to come back to me.
I want to be with this girl and no one else.. and I know if I were given just 1 more chance, I could give her everything and make her happy again. Also I want to mention that I didn't want to get back with her just because she was dating someone else.. I found that out later after I started being her friend again (we also have kissed a couple times while they have been/are dating).
So, right now we are friends again.. But she has been a little distant to me after the kissing. I can't tell what she is thinking.. whether kissing me was a bad idea, if she is confused, if she has no intention of coming back to me.. I don't know. I really would like advice on this subject.. such as, how I should act (should I continue being her friend even though she is dating him and I want to be with her?). What could I do to get her back, or at least improve my chances and show her this is for real now?
Thanks for any help..
