My Girlfriend and her ex's...advice please!

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11-05-09, 09:25 PM
coys

My Girlfriend and her ex's...advice please!

Hi there,

I'm new to the site...so hello to all.

Need some advice...

Been going out with my GF for 4 months. Im 24, she's 30.

Before we first started going out, my girlfriend told me a lot of stuff about herself and previous sex life. All fine, but recently she's been chatting to her ex-husband, cool. But she's also talking to her ex-lover on facebook. This guy had a threesome with my GF and her ex husband, ended up cheating with him, which broke the marriage up.

My GF is very cool, totally gorgeous...I like her a lot...sex life is fab, and we have a good time together...but is this weird?

I've not had a lot of previous relatioship experience, and don't want to come across paranoid...but my thinking is...if she's cheated with this guy once, whats to stop them doing it again?

I saw a msg of his to her, asking to meet up.

Any advice on what to do, ignore?

I want to raise it up in convo, but not get into a fight...and not come across as too untrusting..any tips?

Should I be concerned?
12-05-09, 01:43 AM
alovehangoverr

I agree with you-- she had a sexual relationship with this guy, and then continued it outside of the marriage.

If she had no problem betraying her marriage to be with him, why would she have a problem betraying your current relationship to do it again?
12-05-09, 01:50 AM
Doc Durian

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Originally Posted by coys [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Hi there,

I'm new to the site...so hello to all.

Need some advice...

Been going out with my GF for 4 months. Im 24, she's 30.

Before we first started going out, my girlfriend told me a lot of stuff about herself and previous sex life. All fine, but recently she's been chatting to her ex-husband, cool. But she's also talking to her ex-lover on facebook. This guy had a threesome with my GF and her ex husband, ended up cheating with him, which broke the marriage up.

My GF is very cool, totally gorgeous...I like her a lot...sex life is fab, and we have a good time together...but is this weird?

I've not had a lot of previous relatioship experience, and don't want to come across paranoid...but my thinking is...if she's cheated with this guy once, whats to stop them doing it again?

I saw a msg of his to her, asking to meet up.

Any advice on what to do, ignore?

I want to raise it up in convo, but not get into a fight...and not come across as too untrusting..any tips?

Should I be concerned?

If she learnt her lesson about group sex, and regrets it... that's one thing to breath easier about.

If she's confiding in those she had group sex with, was married to, and who she cheated with... now that she's with you.

well... (for your sake, I won't be totally upfront what I think about this)

You have good reason to be concerned, I'll say that much.

You must love her to put up with any of it.

Hope things turn out fine for the pair of you.
12-05-09, 11:09 AM
Rollerderby

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Originally Posted by alovehangoverr [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I agree with you-- she had a sexual relationship with this guy, and then continued it outside of the marriage.

If she had no problem betraying her marriage to be with him, why would she have a problem betraying your current relationship to do it again?

Once a cheater always a cheater.
12-05-09, 02:47 PM
Lonely Island

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Originally Posted by Rollerderby [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Once a cheater always a cheater.

Couldn't have said it better myself