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Physical faults
Can anyone help me with my problem : I am 24 and my boyfriend is 20 , we are dating 2 months and still haven't have sex. We haven't see each other a month and now we want to go together to the sea-side. My problem is this - i have a small saggy boobs , little extra skin on belly with strechmarks , and scars from the surgery. A year ago i had 100 kg !!!!! Now i have 68 kg and everything is good except those things i mentioned. I have pretty face and i am cheerful and smart girl , but somehow i just can't get over the fact that i look the way i look when i am naked. I am sooooooo worried about his reaction , especially cuz he is still at very young age. We have great time together , and we are in love with each other , but for guys (especially in their early twenties) this physical moment is very important. I am depressed , i just won't survive if he reject me (in the past , when i was fat , i got lot of rejection , so i am quite sensible to this thing). ((( Should i break up with him ? Don't know what to do HEEEEEEELP
P.S.i am sorry for my english , i am Russian
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well if he really likes you than some physical faults shouldn't really affect how he looks at you.
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If people can't accept you for whom you are and the way you are, they're a waste of your time, efford or love.
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I'm 21, I can tell you right now, if you've got a pretty face and a personality worth keeping him around he shouldn't care. I dated a military girl who had some pretty gnarly scars, I wouldn't be too worried about it. And if I can be bluntly honest he'd be a fool to turn down a girl wanting to have sex, lol.
Also - having made a habbit of dating older girls, (+1 to +10 years) I can also tell you there's a bit of a learning curve with understanding things, overall. If he's anything like me though, he'll be patient and understand where you're coming from. Empathy is important in any relationship.
But I gotta agree with the other people here, he's not worth your time if he cares about your physical faults that much.
By the way: your English is fine, ma'am.
V/r,
TK, USN