Love falling apart

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01-07-09, 12:33 PM
JocelynM39

Love falling apart

Well to start off I've been with my husband since I was 16. So about seven years. I love him with all my heart. We've had are ups and downs like any other couple. Lately I've been feeling as if we have been falling apart. I don't know how to start the flair again. Latley it's been we come home I cook dinner, clean the house feed the baby and then sleep. There is no more sex no more romance, passion, nothing. He used to do so many nice things and now I feel so alone. What can I do to fix my relationship?
01-07-09, 12:53 PM
God Eros

Take a day off both of you and spend you time. Do something you use to do when you were 16. Have a day when you only focus on each other and nothing else
01-07-09, 10:06 PM
littleme

Not having been married myself, but imagining if I was in your situation, I would make sure I make time for the two of us to have the best sex ever that we would both want, fullfilling all of our desires 100%, on a regular basis - I believe everything else will flow as a result as you obviously love each other and have a solid relationship that you both want to keep?
01-07-09, 10:28 PM
Henry123

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Originally Posted by JocelynM39 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

There is no more sex no more romance, passion, nothing. He used to do so many nice things and now I feel so alone. What can I do to fix my relationship?

Sit down with coffee and have a talk with him and let him know your disatisfaction. If you dont communicate he may never know.
If its still not working you may consider going together to a relationship/marriage counselor and see if it gets better.

Maybe all he needs is some viagra? :)
01-07-09, 10:44 PM
Rob26

Have you gotten fat on him?

Anyway, marriage isn't about romance. It's about a partnership to provide a stable environment for raising children.

Start reading romance novels and watching Lifetime.
01-07-09, 11:32 PM
qwertz

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Originally Posted by Rob26 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Have you gotten fat on him?

Anyway, marriage isn't about romance. It's about a partnership to provide a stable environment for raising children.

Start reading romance novels and watching Lifetime.

So you think that if your married you cant have romance?

Cause i dont believe that.
02-07-09, 02:41 AM
Yggdrasil

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Originally Posted by JocelynM39 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Well to start off I've been with my husband since I was 16. So about seven years. I love him with all my heart. We've had are ups and downs like any other couple. Lately I've been feeling as if we have been falling apart. I don't know how to start the flair again. Latley it's been we come home I cook dinner, clean the house feed the baby and then sleep. There is no more sex no more romance, passion, nothing. He used to do so many nice things and now I feel so alone. What can I do to fix my relationship?

You guys are stuck in a routine and he's taking you for granted.

Take a 2 week holiday away from him (go visit your mother or so) so he feels what he's missing.

Once you return from your holliday, WORK on your relation, don't let it slack.
02-07-09, 03:07 AM
Sonrisa

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Originally Posted by Yggdrasil [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

You guys are stuck in a routine and he's taking you for granted.

Take a 2 week holiday away from him (go visit your mother or so) so he feels what he's missing.

Once you return from your holliday, WORK on your relation, don't let it slack.

what if he finds someone else while she's away and figures out what he is missing?
02-07-09, 03:23 AM
Yggdrasil

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Originally Posted by Sonrisa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

what if he finds someone else while she's away and figures out what he is missing?

That would answer a lot, wouldn't it?

Look at it this way: if that happens, then at least a long, slow, dramatic and exhausting breakdown was prevented.

Trust is part of a good relation. If there is trust and commitment to the relation, this should not be a problem. Otherwise... you should know the answer.